Not sure if my issue is unique enough (intelectual stimulation)

[Krohlm]

Right, I initially joined to ask Rollo for his advice but seeing as this community is well established I figured I'd just get as many opinions as possible.

A bit of background to my issue.
I only started to unplug about 3 weeks ago (was in a miserable 8 year relationship), anyway. Met a girl on Tinder, went out for dinner.
If I was to say this girl was stupid would be an understatement like saying "having aids kinda sucks". I'd be offending stupid people.

Now, about me.
I consider my social value (only discovered that term recently) to be extremely high. I'm 32, I have a 6 pack, well built, eat paleo, do crossfit, finishing a PHD this year, work as a lecturer, got a decent apartment, totally debt free and considering a bright future as an academic researcher.
My issue is my work. I spend my day trying to convince the next generation of mcdonald's employees that they may have a future if they shut up and listen, do the work and understand this crap. So I deal all day with people who are alot less interested in the subject matter than I am (I fail alot of them).
As such, I've come to dislike students. They are lazy, stupid, disinterested little buggers who exist to piss me off. So when I meet a girl who's dumb I'm immediately turned off. I would say my social conditioning thanks to work has made me jaded.

Anyway, as I get more and more familiar with game and coming to understand women more, the more I need to actually be able to talk to this women on issues that are of relative interest. If she cant deliver on that front then I really couldn't be bothered going any further. The "date" in question was interested in going back to her place, I wasn't.

Does anyone have any advice for me on this front? I really dont want to cultivate more empathy for my students to try get more understanding of issues surrounding stupidity. Do I need to simply date smarter women?

I'm not trying to make excuses and can take critism, so dont pull your punches.

cheers

 

[Desdinova]

3. Its not in the nature of women to specialize in intellectualism even though some do and do succed in it

PPRF is dead on with this statement. Women are more reactive to emotional stimulation as opposed to intellectual stimulation. If you want positive reactions from women, you need to make them feel something. You can do it with conversation, but it has to be emotionally stimulating. That's why flirting and humor is extremely effective. You will NEVER get the same results discussing the laws of physics with a woman regardless of the fact of her being knowledgeable about the subject.

You're going to have to learn to appreciate the fact that women are triggered by emotions, and learn how to make it work for you.

 

[Krohlm]

hmm..

Alright some re-assement is in order then. Cheers for the answers.

 

[El Payaso]

The previous poster is right about making women "FEEL"something. Feel is the keyword. Women don't think with their brains. Nope. They think with their cvnts. All they're thinking is "Can he get me wet?" It doesn't mean that you have to start dirty talk on the first date. It just means that are you attractive enough to her.

I do want to emphasize that you shouldn't drop your standards though. Don't get into a relationship with a stupid girl just because you need or want a girlfriend. Keep screening and qualifying them as hard as you can.

Perhaps try looking for women who are more into your line of work? Also realize that just because they are not very intelligent in your subject matter, it didn't make them completely dumb. They might must be interested or intelligent in another field like geography or whatever.

 

[Krohlm]

Perhaps try looking for women who are more into your line of work? Also realize that just because they are not very intelligent in your subject matter, it didn't make them completely dumb. They might must be interested or intelligent in another field like geography or whatever.

Not gonna happen there. My topic is obscure to the extreme but grounded in VR. Also dating another academic is a huge no-no and total carreer ending move, much like dating a student. Company policy and blah blah blah, if I'm dead honest the people I work with would score at most a 4/10. Interesting conversationalists but its a diffcult line there as the amount of whisky I'd need runs the risk of the equipment not working. Again social value and I'm not settling for second.

Taking the above advice into consideration I think I need to give up on the idea and get my intelectual kicks somewhere else. Part of it I think is also my inner beta holding on to the idea of the "one" so I need to execute that.

Thanks for opening my mind to seeing my issue though.

 

[MattTheW]

Not gonna happen there. My topic is obscure to the extreme but grounded in VR. Also dating another academic is a huge no-no and total carreer ending move, much like dating a student. Company policy and blah blah blah, if I'm dead honest the people I work with would score at most a 4/10. Interesting conversationalists but its a diffcult line there as the amount of whisky I'd need runs the risk of the equipment not working. Again social value and I'm not settling for second.

Taking the above advice into consideration I think I need to give up on the idea and get my intelectual kicks somewhere else. Part of it I think is also my inner beta holding on to the idea of the "one" so I need to execute that.

Thanks for opening my mind to seeing my issue though.

Personally I try and get all my "intellectual kicks" from work colleagues.
I try and keep work and play separate
I will tell a woman what I do if she asks, and I will put it into laymans terms, but what I do isn't what interests her in me, and it wont be what attracts me to her

Don't get me wrong, if she was really stupid then I wouldn't be going there either, they need to be able to hold some form of convo with me, but it will never be about what I do.......

Try and find like minded guys (people) to talk shop with and then just look for woman who you can hold decent convo's with that are a little less intellectual (maybe that share other interests of yours rather than career stuff)

Hope that helps