“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Not sure how to go about this date?

Tomo

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Bear with me, I'm a bit rusty on dates with girls whom I have not built much of a rapport with. Be it a chick I've seen more regularly and genuinely talk with I can easily navigate myself through a date. Thing is, in this case it is a chick whom whenever we have talked, its purely been suggestive flirtations, kino and teasing etc - not much depth. Still got the date. I'm taking her to this marina where there are a selection of restaurants, a gaming arcade and the beach is just around the corner (although it will be quite cold). Heck I did not even book a restaurant and thought to keep it casual and we'd decide on the night rather than choosing a restaurant that either of us did not feel like eating at.

So just had a read through the bible and the problem is I'm wondering whether I should have planned an action date instead of this dinner and not sure what to do after date.

Anyone have any tips for me on how to go about things?
 

What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.

You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

TheSlasher

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Just remove the "we decide" to "I decide (or 80:20 power ratio to your favor since it's a first date)", realize that you're also screening her to see if she's ok for you, and you're good to go.
 

Harry Wilmington

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For most first dates I usually do coffee shop or book shop if I haven't talked with her before. If you have talked to her before, don't try to over-extend the date or go to too many places. First dates should be limited to one location, you shouldn't feel the need to spend a whole lot of money, and the focus should be on seeing if you two are able to spend time together without it feeling awkward.

If you're going to do dinner, make it someplace interesting - I like Hibatchi restaurants 'cause they cook the food on the table and it's entertaining. Don't shoot for something too active yet - you don't know what her likes are and you don't know her level of physical exertion. This is stuff you find out on the first date to help you plan the second one. Restaurant and a walk around the area to look at stuff should be good enough - heck, I've had first dates at malls before that have gone very well, and all we did was walk, look at stuff and talk.
 

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Since you've set the date, find something to do after. I usually go for a walk, go get a drink at another place - something like that.

Action dates are better. So do that.
 
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