"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Bear with me, I'm a bit rusty on dates with girls whom I have not built much of a rapport with. Be it a chick I've seen more regularly and genuinely talk with I can easily navigate myself through a date. Thing is, in this case it is a chick whom whenever we have talked, its purely been suggestive flirtations, kino and teasing etc - not much depth. Still got the date. I'm taking her to this marina where there are a selection of restaurants, a gaming arcade and the beach is just around the corner (although it will be quite cold). Heck I did not even book a restaurant and thought to keep it casual and we'd decide on the night rather than choosing a restaurant that either of us did not feel like eating at.

So just had a read through the bible and the problem is I'm wondering whether I should have planned an action date instead of this dinner and not sure what to do after date.

Anyone have any tips for me on how to go about things?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Just remove the "we decide" to "I decide (or 80:20 power ratio to your favor since it's a first date)", realize that you're also screening her to see if she's ok for you, and you're good to go.
 
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For most first dates I usually do coffee shop or book shop if I haven't talked with her before. If you have talked to her before, don't try to over-extend the date or go to too many places. First dates should be limited to one location, you shouldn't feel the need to spend a whole lot of money, and the focus should be on seeing if you two are able to spend time together without it feeling awkward.

If you're going to do dinner, make it someplace interesting - I like Hibatchi restaurants 'cause they cook the food on the table and it's entertaining. Don't shoot for something too active yet - you don't know what her likes are and you don't know her level of physical exertion. This is stuff you find out on the first date to help you plan the second one. Restaurant and a walk around the area to look at stuff should be good enough - heck, I've had first dates at malls before that have gone very well, and all we did was walk, look at stuff and talk.
 
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Since you've set the date, find something to do after. I usually go for a walk, go get a drink at another place - something like that.

Action dates are better. So do that.
 
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