"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Not seeming easy
- Thread starter JesterX
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Teflon_Mcgee
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matygee said:
90% true.
But there are girls who HAVE to be pursued for whatever reason.
I know this for a fact for two reasons.
1.) I have lost atleast 2 HB's because my ego did not allow me to pursue to any more than a small effort. I nexted at the first sign of her ignoring me.
Later they admitted how they were hurt and how much they had hoped I had made an attempt.
2.)I CONSTANTLY watch my HB 9 cousin go through this with guys. She will be ridicoulously into a guy but still fake disinterest in the beginning. A lot of guys have not made it through as they either puss out or next right away. She doesn't do it as a test per se. She just needs/wants to be chased.
This is were intuition and experience come in. I no longer let my ego stop me from pursuing a woman if she is worth it. However, I never pursue a woman who is a waste of my time (i.e. not interested). There is a fine line and you won't get it right every time.
My SOP when dealing with this situation: I'll make three calls spread through out the first week. Only on the last call will I leave a message. I'll then make one final call about a week later and leave a message. After that I may or may not text after a prolonged period of time.
100% Agree
I've learned in my journey throughout the game that my main problem was I nexted too quick, girls admitted to me later on that they were into me, but because of one thing that I did not like, I left or ignored or something....
Had one girl that asked me out for yoga and a dinner, and we stayed at the dinner table talking for close to 6 hours (i didn't know any better) and then afterwards I'd see her and she wouldn't look or speak to me, I took it as a sign of disinterest and started flirting with another girl in her group just for that girl to tell me she couldn't get involved because her friend (the orignial girl) was REALLY into me.... wtf ?? So yeah don't next too quick...
Some girls want to be chased and have that feeling of wondering if you like her and if she really likes you ect... they'll play a little hard to get, if you instantly turn off the 'box' u'll never get any play... not saying waste your life playing the game, but don't be so quick to put the controller down and give up
-Cod3r
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.