"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Not seeing the forest for the trees...

damnbugs

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Alright, here it is.

I have read a lot of the advice and bible and hand book and the consences is that looking at a friend as anything more than a friend is a no no.

I have gone other routes and been with a bunch of other girls- none that kept my attention and I always end up back thinking about my friend. Our friends treat us somewhat like a couple, we get along great and we are both real comfortable around each other.

Now this has been an on and off attraction for a couple years that has came close to becoming more on a couple of occasions- But I always backed away so that I wouldn't screw up the friendship and because I had in my mind after reading on here that it was a bad idea.

Our friends figure that we will end up together and one said that I should just make a move and get on with it already.

After much thought I figure I have ignored her as a possibility when I should have just went for it.

So as conveluted and cunfused as this probably sounds I think things are finally clear- to me- time will tell ;)

Fire suit on...:D
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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So pimp its scary

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Yes, if you are attracted then make a move... Don't think about the friendship, because you'll either make a bad move and it'll be awkward, or you make a good move and you have a relationship.

Don't follow any attitudinal advice on this, just make a move...
 

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Originally posted by damnbugs
Fire suit on...:D
damn thief, what a cheap knock off from the fantastic four. whatever, *stolen*. lol, I stole *stolen*, so don't blame me, it was there for the taking;)

So Pimp said it, and it's been said before, nobody takes the time to really listen though.

Make your move, if the time is wrong, and you both deserve better, bopth of your emotions will tell you. Hey if you play your cards and her emotions right, you might even get to boink her by really meaning that you want to be JUST FRIENDS after all.

Good luck, I hope So Pimp's message leads you to many years of happy marriage.
 

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Thanks guys- I will.

I am going to be patient and find the right time- but I will update.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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