"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Not seeing the forest for the trees...

damnbugs

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Alright, here it is.

I have read a lot of the advice and bible and hand book and the consences is that looking at a friend as anything more than a friend is a no no.

I have gone other routes and been with a bunch of other girls- none that kept my attention and I always end up back thinking about my friend. Our friends treat us somewhat like a couple, we get along great and we are both real comfortable around each other.

Now this has been an on and off attraction for a couple years that has came close to becoming more on a couple of occasions- But I always backed away so that I wouldn't screw up the friendship and because I had in my mind after reading on here that it was a bad idea.

Our friends figure that we will end up together and one said that I should just make a move and get on with it already.

After much thought I figure I have ignored her as a possibility when I should have just went for it.

So as conveluted and cunfused as this probably sounds I think things are finally clear- to me- time will tell ;)

Fire suit on...:D
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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So pimp its scary

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Yes, if you are attracted then make a move... Don't think about the friendship, because you'll either make a bad move and it'll be awkward, or you make a good move and you have a relationship.

Don't follow any attitudinal advice on this, just make a move...
 

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Originally posted by damnbugs
Fire suit on...:D
damn thief, what a cheap knock off from the fantastic four. whatever, *stolen*. lol, I stole *stolen*, so don't blame me, it was there for the taking;)

So Pimp said it, and it's been said before, nobody takes the time to really listen though.

Make your move, if the time is wrong, and you both deserve better, bopth of your emotions will tell you. Hey if you play your cards and her emotions right, you might even get to boink her by really meaning that you want to be JUST FRIENDS after all.

Good luck, I hope So Pimp's message leads you to many years of happy marriage.
 

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Thanks guys- I will.

I am going to be patient and find the right time- but I will update.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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