Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Not seeing the forest for the trees...

damnbugs

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Alright, here it is.

I have read a lot of the advice and bible and hand book and the consences is that looking at a friend as anything more than a friend is a no no.

I have gone other routes and been with a bunch of other girls- none that kept my attention and I always end up back thinking about my friend. Our friends treat us somewhat like a couple, we get along great and we are both real comfortable around each other.

Now this has been an on and off attraction for a couple years that has came close to becoming more on a couple of occasions- But I always backed away so that I wouldn't screw up the friendship and because I had in my mind after reading on here that it was a bad idea.

Our friends figure that we will end up together and one said that I should just make a move and get on with it already.

After much thought I figure I have ignored her as a possibility when I should have just went for it.

So as conveluted and cunfused as this probably sounds I think things are finally clear- to me- time will tell ;)

Fire suit on...:D
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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So pimp its scary

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Yes, if you are attracted then make a move... Don't think about the friendship, because you'll either make a bad move and it'll be awkward, or you make a good move and you have a relationship.

Don't follow any attitudinal advice on this, just make a move...
 

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Originally posted by damnbugs
Fire suit on...:D
damn thief, what a cheap knock off from the fantastic four. whatever, *stolen*. lol, I stole *stolen*, so don't blame me, it was there for the taking;)

So Pimp said it, and it's been said before, nobody takes the time to really listen though.

Make your move, if the time is wrong, and you both deserve better, bopth of your emotions will tell you. Hey if you play your cards and her emotions right, you might even get to boink her by really meaning that you want to be JUST FRIENDS after all.

Good luck, I hope So Pimp's message leads you to many years of happy marriage.
 

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Thanks guys- I will.

I am going to be patient and find the right time- but I will update.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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