Not Ready

[Barrister]

“Women are the gatekeepers of sex; Men are the gatekeepers of relationships.”

Don’t ever tell a woman you want to date her. It’s her job to impress you enough to allow it. Second, it’s pretty obvious you’re trying to go from point A to point Z. This woman was “caught off guard” when you stated you “wanted her” because you clearly haven’t done anything to seduce her. Unfortunately, it’s very hard how to tell a man to be confident and charismatic. Your best bet is to watch suave men. Real or not. Like James Bond. And then go out and practice on both women and men just being charming. You just need to get comfortable in those situations and it all begins to click.

 

[Mertz09]

There's a girl I wanted to date a few months ago. When I told her that I wanted her, she gave me the "I'm not ready for a relationship" rejection. A few days later she asked me if I was mad at her since I had gone silent. My reply was that I wasn't mad. It's been a few months and I can't seem to get her out of my head.

Recently I started reading The Rational Male by Rollo Tomassi and I've gone throught the plate theory,but I don't know how to begin.

So she doesn't want to go out on a date, but she is worried that you are "mad" at her? Why does she care? I would stay away from her.

 

[BadBoy89]

I would never recommend telling a woman you want to date her, be in a relationship, be her boyfriend, etc.

Your job is always to seduce her and have sex. If you seduce her properly then she will drop all sorts of hints that she wants a relationship with you and might even be straight forward about it. Seeking a realtionship is her job, not yours.


When you push for the relationship you come across as needy and not masculine and give all your power away.

I used to think like this because it is what everyone said. But if I could go back and tell my younger self something, I would say "this is completely wrong" with a woman under 30.

If the woman is under 30, she's a valuable resource. A man has to get in there right away. No time for playing around because another guy will come and swoop her up in 2 seconds.

I see absolutely no issue telling a woman under 30 "Look, I like you, I want to be your boyfriend. What do you think?" None.

Now if the woman is over 30, I agree with what Duke said. Sit back and don't do a damn thing.