Some girl who has been leading me on and ****, but also admitting to liking me. Saying how she likes me but wishes she didnt. Because she doesnt want a relatyionship because they've all turned otu ****ty for her. So i got kinda pissed because she knew she was leading me on. I said well if you want the past to ruin the future with other people then so be it. She continued to be a *****, so i just blocked her and cut off contact. I think it was the right move.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Not ready for a relationship.
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
I think that was not bad what you did. Or you could have just shrugged it off and said ok and not talked to her anymore. However, it has always been my understanding that if the girl says she is not ready for a relationship, that usually just means she is not ready for a relationship with YOU. Believe me I have had this happen to me before too and even though she says she doesnt want a relationship right now, dont think that if she met some super cool guy who looks good and can knock it out in bed, and all that other stuff, dont think she would not date that guy if he came along right now. I think she just doesnt want it with YOU right now.
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ego........
Hey,
Women don't like to be alone.
It is an ego thing.
She is looking for a relationship, but,----he ain't you.........
Forget her and move on.
cave dweller
Hey,
Women don't like to be alone.
It is an ego thing.
She is looking for a relationship, but,----he ain't you.........
Forget her and move on.
cave dweller
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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I'd hit it 