"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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This happened at work so I'm obviously not going to escalate. This is more of an analysis/experiment/what-if type thread.

Today, a girl that had flirted with me a little last week at work was completely decked out. High heels (she doesn't wear these a lot), decent amount of makeup, hair put up nice, sexy dress. Guys were fawning all over her today. I acted indifferent and kind of ignored her. In the afternoon when I walked by she called my name out to get my attention. I said "hey" but just kept walking. No emotional reaction, just had work to do so I left.

Like I said this is at work, so I know I did the right thing. What would you guys have done if it was somewhere else like a party or get-together or something? I'm thinking I would have acted similar, indifferent but not sure if I would escalate or not since it seemed she was just looking for attention.

Recently, if I'm unsure of what to do, I just say nothing.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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What would you guys have done if it was somewhere else like a party or get-together or something?

Its true a girl like this obviously gets dolled up for attention.....but you cant treat it with total indifference because youll end up holding your d1ck in your hand at the end of the night. The key is to not be fawning over her looks like a 5th grade boy. Its fine to say to yourself "Damn...she looks hott as fvck tonight", but dont go over there complimenting her left and right on her outfit or looks. Id talk to her as I normally would and really wouldnt treat this scenario any different....if anything it should play into an alpha male's favor because she is the one trying to "sell herself" as the real deal by putting in all that effort.
 

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OK I see your point. Basically don't let it affect you and don't go over-the-top with the compliments.
 

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i hate doing that man, i hate going against that natural urge to look

i used to act indifferent but i realize theres no point, id prefer to get a good look and if the woman sees me checking her out and likes me looking at her even better, nothing wrong with being a hound
 

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foreverAFC said:
i hate doing that man, i hate going against that natural urge to look

i used to act indifferent but i realize theres no point, id prefer to get a good look and if the woman sees me checking her out and likes me looking at her even better, nothing wrong with being a hound
except then you fill her ego like the rest of the dudes fawning all over her. acting indifferent shows you arent desperate and you are a god damn challenge.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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JohnChops said:
except then you fill her ego like the rest of the dudes fawning all over her. acting indifferent shows you arent desperate and you are a god damn challenge.

being indifferent doesnt work well for me, i naturally have an angry look and it pushes people away real quick, for me it works better to show blatant interest in women, i dont fawn over them, just looking at them a few seconds longer than you should or looking back at them once or twice is enough to let them know whats up
 

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foreverAFC said:
i hate doing that man, i hate going against that natural urge to look

i used to act indifferent but i realize theres no point, id prefer to get a good look and if the woman sees me checking her out and likes me looking at her even better, nothing wrong with being a hound
I agree. A lot of times not looking and acting indifferent sends a message to her that you are not interested. You're not doing mankind any favors by downplaying her, and she will most likely next you. To think she will all of a sudden chase you like a cheetah in the Serengeti is delusional.

Many times I have done this and many times I have seen some other guy call her sexy, good lookin and they leave together. If you know her and you know she is a pure AW, sure do it, otherwise I think you should notice her with a minimal reaction, go up to her, do your thing, and actually try and make an attempt to get her.
 
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