"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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This happened at work so I'm obviously not going to escalate. This is more of an analysis/experiment/what-if type thread.

Today, a girl that had flirted with me a little last week at work was completely decked out. High heels (she doesn't wear these a lot), decent amount of makeup, hair put up nice, sexy dress. Guys were fawning all over her today. I acted indifferent and kind of ignored her. In the afternoon when I walked by she called my name out to get my attention. I said "hey" but just kept walking. No emotional reaction, just had work to do so I left.

Like I said this is at work, so I know I did the right thing. What would you guys have done if it was somewhere else like a party or get-together or something? I'm thinking I would have acted similar, indifferent but not sure if I would escalate or not since it seemed she was just looking for attention.

Recently, if I'm unsure of what to do, I just say nothing.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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What would you guys have done if it was somewhere else like a party or get-together or something?

Its true a girl like this obviously gets dolled up for attention.....but you cant treat it with total indifference because youll end up holding your d1ck in your hand at the end of the night. The key is to not be fawning over her looks like a 5th grade boy. Its fine to say to yourself "Damn...she looks hott as fvck tonight", but dont go over there complimenting her left and right on her outfit or looks. Id talk to her as I normally would and really wouldnt treat this scenario any different....if anything it should play into an alpha male's favor because she is the one trying to "sell herself" as the real deal by putting in all that effort.
 

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OK I see your point. Basically don't let it affect you and don't go over-the-top with the compliments.
 

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i hate doing that man, i hate going against that natural urge to look

i used to act indifferent but i realize theres no point, id prefer to get a good look and if the woman sees me checking her out and likes me looking at her even better, nothing wrong with being a hound
 

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foreverAFC said:
i hate doing that man, i hate going against that natural urge to look

i used to act indifferent but i realize theres no point, id prefer to get a good look and if the woman sees me checking her out and likes me looking at her even better, nothing wrong with being a hound
except then you fill her ego like the rest of the dudes fawning all over her. acting indifferent shows you arent desperate and you are a god damn challenge.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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JohnChops said:
except then you fill her ego like the rest of the dudes fawning all over her. acting indifferent shows you arent desperate and you are a god damn challenge.

being indifferent doesnt work well for me, i naturally have an angry look and it pushes people away real quick, for me it works better to show blatant interest in women, i dont fawn over them, just looking at them a few seconds longer than you should or looking back at them once or twice is enough to let them know whats up
 

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foreverAFC said:
i hate doing that man, i hate going against that natural urge to look

i used to act indifferent but i realize theres no point, id prefer to get a good look and if the woman sees me checking her out and likes me looking at her even better, nothing wrong with being a hound
I agree. A lot of times not looking and acting indifferent sends a message to her that you are not interested. You're not doing mankind any favors by downplaying her, and she will most likely next you. To think she will all of a sudden chase you like a cheetah in the Serengeti is delusional.

Many times I have done this and many times I have seen some other guy call her sexy, good lookin and they leave together. If you know her and you know she is a pure AW, sure do it, otherwise I think you should notice her with a minimal reaction, go up to her, do your thing, and actually try and make an attempt to get her.
 
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