"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Not Quite Social Enough

KnightRider

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I have read pretty much everything there is out there (DJ bible, ross jeffries material and NLP, etc etc) but I still need help.

This is my first year at college, and I am commuting to school (usually bus or train). Obviously I have a disadvantage compared to people living at the dorms when it comes to creating a friend-base and spending time with friends.

After this first semester I have a few maybe (2 or 3) friends, but even this small group of people are actually more like "acquaintances".

In high school things weren't too different. I had a lot of friends, but I never really spent time outside of school with them. I mean I knew almost everyone in my grade, and almost everyone knew, respected, and liked me, but I still didn't build solid friendships like other people (ie didnt go to the movies and places with groups of friends, never had a GF or dated, etc.)

I have no problem being social and talking -- in fact thats my area of expertise. I have a good grasp of humor and am generally able to make people laugh without little difficulty.

In college 3 out of 4 of my classes are held in large auditoriums which makes it impossible to talk to anyone. In my 1 class which is small (only about 15 students) I have built up a solid reputation for myself with both my classmates and the teacher -- but alas none of my classmates are really my "friends", we just merely talk a bit before and after class.

In the auditorium like classes talking to a HB is not very easy because the auditoriums can hold about 250 students, but each class has a 125 student limit so everyone spreads out around the auditorium and leaves a 1 or 2 seat "buffer" zone. Groups of friends generally sit together. With so much space in the auditorium it would be too awkward to just spot a HB and just sit right next to them, considering the amount of space in the rows.

If its would just be me and a girl somewhere talking its very easy for my talking skills to take over, but this is not the case in 99% of the time. Most of the time (such as at school events or such) there are hundreds of people and the HBs are in their own groups of friends.

As of right now my life consists of:

B. Going to lectures
C. Eating lunch at one of the cafeterias
D. Riding bus back home
E. Doing homework
(repeat the above steps many many times)


I have no clue what to do at this point.

Any help would be appreciated. :confused: :)

Thanks.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Grey Fox

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Dude, get involved in some clubs, like outdoors groups, find a friend that you like and hang out with them sometime after class and meet there friends. Hell just talk people are bound to listen. When you start doing that you'll figure some other things out too.

-Grey Fox
 

MacDiddy

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don't get hung up on having too few friends. You'll find that friends can be a drain on your time as well as your mental resources. It does take effort to get social. (ie. you don't just sit around and do nothing) and going out too often can hinder your ultimate goals in life.

You still need friends so build a few core group of friends. You don't need them to go sarging, but you need them to unwind and relax. It'll take time to do this so just be patient.

Now-a-days, I wish I didn't have soo many friends!!! I know... It sucks doesn't it!!!!!
 

Abbott

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You're not alone, so don't feel bad. I remember the first year I was in college, I didn't make any friends at all. I was in a similar situation as you are. I lived alone off-campus (one bedroom apartment to myself), drove to school everyday, and practically did everything by myself (homework, errands, etc.).

I doubt that comment was helpful, but I'm sure it made you feel better.

Consider yourself lucky...at least there are some cute women in your classes. I'm in a strongly male-dominated field so there are going to be very few women (one class of mine has NO women).

Ben
 

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“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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just so you all know, this Knight is not associated in any way with THIS KnightRyder thanks....
 
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