I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
It's like a back handed compliment. She's trying to express interest without putting you on a pedestal. Like she's interested, but a guy like you she normally wouldn't give the time of day, so consider yourself lucky, I guess...
I had a woman once tell me on a second date that I wasn’t her type and she usually dated more attractive guys. I ignored. I was facking her an hour later and ghosted her ass. Don’t pay too much attention to what she says, Always follow her actions.
The key word is normally. She was showing interest, so why did you bail instead of asking her out?