Not my normal self. Need a *****slap.

[B4IFURU18?]

Dan -

I've got it under control buddy...

...I don't mind constructive criticism, but! I'm not getting pimped, if I said, "Ok, I'll drop what I'm doing and come over..." then I'd be getting pimped. I held my ground brotha...

 

[B4IFURU18?]

No, I realize I *was* giving too much contact. Maybe not though, depends on how she perceives me. I never send elaborate texts, usually smart ass, short to the point ones.

My question was answered last night when she avoided contact all day, then sent me a message late last night wanting me to come **** her...

I'm just gonna lay low for a while and make her miss me even more than she does.

Thanks again!

 

[penkitten]

usually when chicks like a guy, they cant wait to talk to him everyday.
if she doesn't feel a "want" or "need " to talk to you everyday, then she isn't getting oneitis for you in return.

 

[I.A.F.Y.B.]

usually when chicks like a guy, they cant wait to talk to him everyday.
if she doesn't feel a "want" or "need " to talk to you everyday, then she isn't getting oneitis for you in return.

:cheer:

 

[BluEyes]

You are thinking about this too much. When I get into a situation like this(feel like im being pulled into AFCish behaviours), I go to a method that works.

Mirroring.

Mirror her interest level. If she escalates attention, you should as well. When you start to see her interest is dwindling, pull some of yours off the table and see if she comes back. If she does, give her some attention again. Keep going like this.

Just make sure that you are in control of the relationship and that YOU decide what kind it will be. Do you want to see how far you can escalate it(testing her IL)? Do you want a friends w/ benefits? What exactly do you want out of this relationship? Don't think about HER, think about your relationship and where you want it to go.

If I were you'd I'd be testing her. Treat her like a godess for a week and see how she reacts. Does she walk all over you? Does she go cold? Find some stable footing in this relationship so you know how far she will bend either way.

Experiment.

 

[Eccentric]

She tickles your fancy, and you like it. There's nothing wrong with it. You don't have to justify your feelings to a message board. No one is second guessing you and someone like Mystery, DD, or whoever else writes books isn't going to pop out of the bushes to tell you that you're wrong for your decision.

To tell you the truth, no one cares what's going on between you two, except you two (well maybe family, but that's irrelevant). You only live once. Go with what makes you happy. Run with it until you can't run anymore. It's like talking to a pitcher throwing a no hitter, don't spoil it.

And that whole talk about being pimped...

She likes you, she wants to **** you! So you couldn't make a booty call, and you're going to get revenge because she called you a joke? She's probably sopping wet, you're hard as a rock, yeah... lets wait on sex to teach her a lesson. Are you NUTS!?

2 Pac said it best in Fair Exchange, Yeah it's true I'm gettin *****, but baby you gettin ****!

Is she a fling, LTR? Who cares! Go with the flow. You don't have to tip your hand to advance the on the base paths. Next time you're with her, **** her brains out, hell turn it into a Kodak moment. And if you're getting pimped, hey, at least you're getting *****, just leave your emotions at the door and you'll be fine.

 

[B4IFURU18?]

Eccentric -

Right on man. Nah, I basically told her that she doesn't need to be short with me. I dislike negativity.

Well, she sent me a couple texts apologizing for her behavior last night. Told you her IL is high...

It's not that I'm getting revenge, I'm just not going to give her what she wants if she's going to be demanding. When I tell a girl I'm busy wrapping up some last minute work, and I'm on my way to bed because I need to be up by 5:30, I expect that they will respect that and we'll **** another day. Not be put off by it because she's not getting what she wants...

...It's pointless drama. Let's just **** tomorrow and forget about it.

 

[the_great_gaia]

ok, so at this point in time, how would you get the girl to fall head over heels in love or "oneitis" for you?

When you all are addressing B4IFURU18, you all are addressing me as well. My situation is an identical twin to his. Hell, I'd like to talk to the guy on the phone about this. But how do you get her to fall HARDER than you?

Last night, I was supposed to go to WWE Monday Night RAW with my homie and I wanted to see her before I went. When I seen my girl, she looked so fvcking sexy that I didn't even want to go to the Wrestling Venue anymore. But I knew I had to... or she would feel that she has control over me. So I went anyway.

She would text me and tell me to enjoy myself and that she'd be hanging out with her sister and some friends in her neighborhood. Ok, cool.

I called her after the show to tell her that I was going to come see her again and she was all for it. But she was on her way to Wal Mart with her pals. I called back, and got no answer, It was 11:56pm. I gave her until 12:03am to call me back (this was a self-note, I didn't tell her to call at 12:03am) or I was just gonna go the fvck home. She called at 12:05am, and she asked where I was and I said "Going home, you called too late.."

She got so irritated and upset, I could hear it in her voice. LOL. Then she was like "Ok, fine, bye!" Then I told her to calm down and that I was on my way over, she sounded relieved.

When I got there, she asked me to come inside her house; a 1st for me. She introduced me to her mom, and her mom complimented me. Once before, like a week ago, I got into an altercation with her father, he talked shyt to me, but i wasn't scared of him. I stood my ground to him, WITH the ut-most respect. Her mom then told me that her father said "I appear to be a nice, respect person", which floored me inside.

Te Te (my girl) started giving me a tour of the house, showed me her room and even turned the lights out, started showing me her baby pictures, and more pictures from like 1986. And afterwards, we left to go smoke and then I took her home, which she would later call me to talk about stuff.


I really want her to obsess and worship the ground I walk on. I really do. Someone guide me in that direction.

 

[B4IFURU18?]

gaia -

Perhaps she does. Most people won't openly divulge to one another that they're obsessed and head over heals for their partner so soon in a relationship.

Take solace in the fact that she gets annoyed when you make other plans. (I hate the unnecessary drama, but it is a relief to know that they like you so much they get mad when you're not around them! It's hilarious.)...

Feel free to PM me if you wanna talk about this **** some more.

 

[penkitten]

make her jealous.

 

[Zerotwoonenine]

dude, if u go on u will fall for her, trust me, you dont wanna fall for her cause that where all the truble starts.
I know its hard, but at least you have a safe road to return, keep your heart under control, otherwise u'll b torn to pieces.
I am already on a road of no return lol