"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Not Feeling "so suave" at the moment

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Damn, this is fvcked up right here. I just posted about this chick that's two years younger than I (elysse). Well, now this morning my friend tells me that he's taken the initiative without my knowledge to set up a double date with him and his gf with elysse and i. He said she seemed excited about it, so naturally I was too.

Tonight I just called her (8:45 PM). I called her before at like 9:30 like a month ago on a weekend and she said she was about to go to sleep.

FVCK $HIT BIATCH MUTHA FVCKA!

This is how the convo went (i'm pissed and confused as I write this). I tell her that I heard about what had happened, and she says right away "but I can't this weekend. My friend **** is moving to Idaho in 5 days." Then she says she's moving to Idaho (jokingly but trying to be serious). After she admits she's not moving to Idaho, she tells me how she and her friends are spending as much time as possible until then.

Then...

She tells me how she's SO tired and is about to go to bed...again...At 8:45! At this point I'm calling her on her BS so she throws out every excuse as to why she's tired. Now I was sure she was messing with me, so I let her "go to bed."

WTF?! She TOLD my friend she was really interested, and now she's doing everything short of foretelling her impending abduction at the hands of freakin aliens (which I wouldn't wish against) to get out of it!

I guess tomorrow I'll know more of WTF is up with this crazy broad. She's definitely not worth this crap. Just ranting, reply if you wish.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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From the description of your convo with her, it seems that she isn't interested at all. She probably said she was excited to be nice about it.


If this kind of behavior keeps up














NEXT.
 
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I know she didn't seem interested, that's what I thought and was trying to convey. I dunno, maybe it's one of those stupid games 16 y.o.'s play. In either case, I'm not goin' for it. I guess in that sense I have learned something from this site. Two years ago (or perhaps less :confused: ) I would have actually believed some of the crap she was feeding me. Feeling better now that I won't be wasting my time on this one :D
 
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18 year old... likes a 16 year old.... and... has his friend set up the date too?

No, I wouldn't feel suave eather.
 
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Thanks buddy, it's not like I planned the situation out like this ya know. I mean, if I could just pretend it was some bad dream I would, because I've never had something like this go so horribly wrong at every stage. Good news is that I'm learnin though. Tonight I should have updates so turn down those flamethrowers til then.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Why the hell did you even call her.

First of all, your "FRIEND" made the arrangements. Its in his jurisdiction to orchestrate and execute the plans. YOU are just along for the ride.

2nd, Why would you even waste your time trying to call her out on her BS? Its such a waste of energy, seriously bro. Shooting yourself in the balls.
 
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Originally posted by LikRetsam
18 year old... likes a 16 year old.... and... has his friend set up the date too?

No, I wouldn't feel suave eather.
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:p.... ouch
 
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Damn, looks like I won't find out what the hell is up until after the long holiday weekend. It's a curiousity thing now cause I'm really not even interested in dating her at this point.

*erects 5-day flame shield*
 
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when will men understand that women love to tease men? She obviously has you by the balls or you wouldnt be so pissed about it. Its just a date, not like you were gonna get laid or even kissed for that matter. So what if she was tired that early in the night? maybe she just didnt feel like talking. big deal! stop flipping out over little things. Like one guy said, you were on a free ride, why be such a little ***** about it. Plus, SHE'S A ****ING HIGH-SCHOOLER!!!! Honestly, date women your age and you most likely wont have to put up with the playing hard to get crap.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Originally posted by LuvMyArmyMan
when will men understand that women love to tease men? She obviously has you by the balls or you wouldnt be so pissed about it. Its just a date, not like you were gonna get laid or even kissed for that matter. So what if she was tired that early in the night? maybe she just didnt feel like talking. big deal! stop flipping out over little things. Like one guy said, you were on a free ride, why be such a little ***** about it. Plus, SHE'S A ****ING HIGH-SCHOOLER!!!! Honestly, date women your age and you most likely wont have to put up with the playing hard to get crap.
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What's this? A woman giving honest advice, now thats a rare sight.

They ussually say something like "If your want her to suck your ****, you need to buy her more chocolate, the more chocolate, the higher your chance of sex".
 
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Originally posted by LuvMyArmyMan
when will men understand that women love to tease men? She obviously has you by the balls or you wouldnt be so pissed about it. Its just a date, not like you were gonna get laid or even kissed for that matter. So what if she was tired that early in the night? maybe she just didnt feel like talking. big deal! stop flipping out over little things. Like one guy said, you were on a free ride, why be such a little ***** about it. Plus, SHE'S A ****ING HIGH-SCHOOLER!!!! Honestly, date women your age and you most likely wont have to put up with the playing hard to get crap.
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Wow....

That's some good stuff.

But yeah, I wasn't even about to take it as a *serious* date, just a chance to get to know someone better. I've been trying to think back to that mindset of a 16 y.o. and realized it's possible she didn't know what to do in this situation. She's prolly not had much dating experience to speak of, so *maybe* it's just her maturity level. At any rate, I'm over it since she seems a little too immature. I usually have more success with chicks that are older than me anyways, and next semester I'm transferring to UCSD, so it's ON then.
 
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Originally posted by LuvMyArmyMan
when will men understand that women love to tease men? She obviously has you by the balls...
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I can't wait till your army man reads this...:D


But, hey... atleast you're being honest. Good advice, Luv.;)
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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When it comes to girls that aren't out High School, expect anything. From whether her nails are broken to whether shejust gave head to her grade in the parking lot at recess, you have to be ready for everything.

It seems like she became disinterested. Move on.
 
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Originally posted by LuvMyArmyMan
I wont go into details.
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Thanks. I wouldn't wanna hear about it anyways.;)
 
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