"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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The ones that do are narcissists aka bpd.

By the same token, the only type of girls likely to respond to the player’s tactics is...the narcissist aka bpd.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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You'll get sh!t tested either in the beginning of an interaction or at the end of a relationship.
The difference between the two is interest levels.

Low interest = Very High amounts of sh!t testing.
High interest = Very Low amounts of sh!t testing until your frame shatters.
If she sees you as person A but you gradually become person C, you'll get a wave of sh!t tests coming in your direction. These tests are more predictable and easier to pass, but your frame has to project person A again otherwise you're done.

All women sh!t test. Even old geriatric women.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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The ones that do are narcissists aka bpd.

By the same token, the only type of girls likely to respond to the player’s tactics is...the narcissist aka bpd.
I don't believe that. A lot of the time if they test you they aren't sure about you amd want to see what you are made of. It's almost an IOI if they do
 

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If you want to distinguish NPD/BPD sh1t testing btw, look @flowtheory thread about her criticizing his d1ck to try to undermine his sexual confidence, that is a classic NPD "test"(not really a test just outright disrespect to get power).
I don’t get why that would give her power? Maybe you could help me out with that. According to her, she said that because she hasn’t experienced a circumsiced penis before.
 
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If she isn’t always gauging and testing you on many levels, there’s something wrong with her. I mean REALLY wrong with her. Maybe she was once a dude. Something like that.
 

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If she isn’t always gauging and testing you on many levels, there’s something wrong with her. I mean REALLY wrong with her. Maybe she was once a dude. Something like that.
I was thinking about this the other day about how odd I find it when a woman isn't playing mind games or **** like that. To the point where I feel there's something wrong with her.
 
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Maybe there is nothing wrong, if, "...she isn't always gauging and testing you on many levels...."

Perhaps she is actually a feminine woman, with a MAN whom she clearly admires and respects and is treating him as such.
This would mean that he is impenetrable and never has a flawed moment.
I do agree with your concept though. The more masculine a man is the less will be thrown at him. I do agree with that.

No testing or evaluation or testing? She would be dead. “If it’s too good to be true...it is. Let me find where those weaknesses are.”
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Women do not have one consistent desire. Women want a strong masculine man AND they want to exert control over the man. Hence the sh1t test in one form or another is inevitable, it's a structural trait. Some women of course are much more biased towards one factor than the other.
What it comes down to is women like a challenge. A guy who rolls over too easily is not fun for a woman. However a masculine one poses a challenge for them to try and get them to change and submit to them.
 

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If she isn’t always gauging and testing you on many levels, there’s something wrong with her. I mean REALLY wrong with her. Maybe she was once a dude. Something like that.
The tests never go away, is what you’re saying.
Like that David Deida chapter. ‘Stop waiting for your woman to get easier’
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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The tests never go away, is what you’re saying.
Like that David Deida chapter. ‘Stop waiting for your woman to get easier’
In a way. But not straight up. It’s more
like “do I still feel protected” type of situation.

Her concern is always HER situation. Not yours. A woman can’t see past that so don’t expect it. Men exist to protect and serve from her reality. In the present society that’s the way it really is.

So if you think about where she is coming from and put yourself in her shoes, it is easier to see what destabilizes her. In other words makes her feel exposed and vulnerable.
The tendency is to start doing everything for her or always sucking up to see if she is ok. This is a death nail. You must be willing to cut her loose if necessary. So to do that you can never stop being the masculine male leader. It has to All be on your terms. I know that goes against your up-bring but it’s true. That’s where she can find herself and her femininity.
A woman if left to her own devices will wreck nearly every part of her life and still think she’s “strong” and amazing. It’s so bizarre.
 

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In a way. But not straight up. It’s more
like “do I still feel protected” type of situation.

Her concern is always HER situation. Not yours. A woman can’t see past that so don’t expect it. Men exist to protect and serve from her reality. In the present society that’s the way it really is.

So if you think about where she is coming from and put yourself in her shoes, it is easier to see what destabilizes her. In other words makes her feel exposed and vulnerable.
The tendency is to start doing everything for her or always sucking up to see if she is ok. This is a death nail. You must be willing to cut her loose if necessary. So to do that you can never stop being the masculine male leader. It has to All be on your terms. I know that goes against your up-bring but it’s true. That’s where she can find herself and her femininity.
A woman if left to her own devices will wreck nearly every part of her life and still think she’s “strong” and amazing. It’s so bizarre.
So.. do what’s best for you ultimately, and keep the woman in mind?
Create your vision of love and life and take her along for the ride, while watching her actions and listening to what is going on with her.
 
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So.. do what’s best for you ultimately, and keep the woman in mind?
Create your vision of love and life and take her along for the ride, while watching her actions and listening to what is going on with her.
If you like her let her come with you. Like is an important word. Love is a useless word.
 
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Everyone sh*t tests to some extent. Guys do too, it’s just that people here call it frame. Sh*t testing/frame - usually the same thing when you consider the intentions behind it. Not necessarily bad, not always good.

Human behaviour.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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