"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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not a dj yet --- crying on the inside

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djmac

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hello djs.

I put a post up a while back proclaiming to be a dj. Apparently I was way off base. I was getting all kinds of girls, and I'm still getting phone numbers, but come to find out when I have feelings and they SUCK.

I was going to call one of the girls on my list to tell her what's up, but this seems to be a much safer place, considering I could possibly get better advice and I won't get a reputation in my hometown for being a whinny a$$. And I have to get this out of my head.

I've been dating this girl for a coupla weeks now, and we went out to the bar last night. Things were going good, she was telling her friends that things were going great between us. I did things right all the way to the end then I fkd up bigtime.

We sang, we played darts, and I pulled it out and she gave me a handjob in the bar. Then we get back to her house, and I asked if she had a good time. Then my drunken stupid a$$ started over analyzing, and I started saying some really dumb sht, like --- why aren't you smiling?, why are you sitting way over there.

Anyhow she said I was being annoying and asked me to leave. I can't blame her one bit. I don't like the fact that I totally went chump on her, but I had been drinking for about 9 hrs. and it so happened my sappy side decided to pay a visit.

I want to go over there and talk things out, but I do know better than that. My mind is trying to rationalize going over there, with things like it would be spontaneous, but if I did that she would probably think she was the prize.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Infamous_Wolf

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I don't think anyone here is really a Don Juan. Every here seems to see it as a status to be obtained, to brag about. Don Juan is not a status, it is an entire *life style*. The DJ doesn't need any praise for his conquests, but he learns from his failures. take this lesson wtih you and make sure you don't let it happen again. the true DJ doesn't want or need for one girl, because a true DJ doesn't need any girl. If you are not breaking through with this girl, there is a point where you should cut your losses and run. Don't worry about it dude. **** happens. move on.
 
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Cry For Love

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Once it becomes a part of your true personality, there is no urge to brag. The urge only exists as long as it is something new and amazing.

No need to let your head down. Its a long process of change and what at first seem like amazing portions of progress, are really small steps.
 
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stonetowers

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DJ'ing is not about or never has been about perfection, only improvment and can truly only come from experince
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Wodan

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True, dont worry too much m8, your young by the sound of things and will be well above the average guys your age after a while of learning and applying stuff from here :)
 
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