"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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NoSoda Challenge

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Basically, I have a soda addiction. I drink a particular flavor like people smoke cigarettes. I have decided tonight that in my effort to prepare for walking shirtless at the beach this summer and going forward, I am immediately ceasing all soda consumption. Water and coffee will be my only beverages from this point forward. I will be posting updates here on how I'm doing with this on occasion.

I will also post any possible benefits I might experience.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I used to drink a lot of Coke. I quit drinking anything with any kind of sweeteners in it over 10 years ago. Nowadays if I drink soda I usually feel sick to some extent. Sprite is especially bad.

spend a little extra to get good coffee now that you'll be able to taste it
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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My current beverage rotation:

Seltzer water w/ frozen fruit instead of ice

Iced green tea
(make sure the bags are paper as a lot of them have plastic components these days)
w/ lemon and stevia

w/ a cheat meal:
The occasional 0 calorie soda
The occasional beer
 

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(This is not in reply to espi above. I just saw his mention of an occasional soda)
Switching to diet soda somehow makes people fatter. You also still get kidney stones from the caramel coloring if it is cola.
 

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(This is not in reply to espi above. I just saw his mention of an occasional soda)
Switching to diet soda somehow makes people fatter. You also still get kidney stones from the caramel coloring if it is cola.
I'd rather drink tap water than diet soda
 

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Day 1
Had a coffee to kick off the day. Drank water throughout the day. Had unsweet tea with my supper. No soda
 

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For the guys who knows a bit more about it, is there any problem to drink Zero Sugar Sodas? I still hear a lot of things that it's not good if you're fasting, and that appearently there are some components there that can be transformed into sugar by your body, but I don't know about it for sure.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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For the guys who knows a bit more about it, is there any problem to drink Zero Sugar Sodas? I still hear a lot of things that it's not good if you're fasting, and that appearently there are some components there that can be transformed into sugar by your body, but I don't know about it for sure.
The acid isn't good for your teeth.
 

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I also like sodas. Over the past couple of weeks, I no longer drink Coke (judging by their new 'image'... I'm apparently "too white" for them).

I've now switched to the original Pepsi (with actual cane sugar and not corn syrup). You'll be amazed at how quickly you'll lose pounds. I need to drop about 10 or 15 lbs and in the past week or so, I've dropped four.
 

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The best drinks I like making are ice tea. Basically you take tea, seep it in hot water, quadruple the bags to make it ultra-strong then put a bunch of ice cubs on it and sweeten it with stevia liquid. Also make all sorts of teas by going to this site called Dave's Tea:

I used to go on Teavana but they went out of business back in 2018 and there is nothing like a tea adventure because it gives you more of a taste range then you can get with soft drinks, a much richer flavour and they are way more healthier too.
 

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Day 7
Still no soda. Been drinking good amounts of water. Occasional coffee or unsweet tea. Switched from putting creamer and sugar in coffee to simply drinking it without anything added. Medium Roast Kroger brand was actually okay.

Been to the gym 3 times.
I have started tracking some tape measurements. Important one for me will be tracking my belly/waist. Also tracking weight.

Giving Noom a try. Should be interesting. I want to establish healthy eating habits that will last.

Note for the forum:
I'm not overweight, but I was heading that way. I'm certainly not fit.
 

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Day 17
Still not one soda. Worst thing I've had to drink was a starbucks energy drink once. Been drinking my coffee black. I have one cup in the morning, then usually water the rest of the day. Some protein shakes to supplement my protein intake.

I've continued to log my meals on noom and have been consistent on coming in under my calorie goal.

Been fairly consistent on working out. Doing a mix of free weights, machine weights, and body weight.

So far I've lost about one and a half inches off my belly and 5 lbs.

Feeling really good.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Important note: i've been getting less headaches since I stopped drinking soda.
 

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Im in vacation in the Philippines and everyone out here drinks soda man. So I don't think I can pull off a soda fast just yet.

I just had one of those powdered nestea drinks this afternoon It was pretty good, reminds me of my childhood. I'll burn this off during a jog, walk or bike ride or something.
 

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Basically, I have a soda addiction. I drink a particular flavor like people smoke cigarettes.
I can relate to that, I used to be hooked on sodas. What worked well for me is I switched to water. Once you get into the habit of drinking it, water is incredibly refreshing. I'll still have a soda sometimes when I go out to eat though, that's my compromise. I don't really like restricting myself from things completely. Whether that would work for someone else probably depends on how many meals they eat out though, most of my meals are home cooked.
 

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I can relate to that, I used to be hooked on sodas. What worked well for me is I switched to water. Once you get into the habit of drinking it, water is incredibly refreshing. I'll still have a soda sometimes when I go out to eat though, that's my compromise. I don't really like restricting myself from things completely. Whether that would work for someone else probably depends on how many meals they eat out though, most of my meals are home cooked.
I enjoy water greatly now. I have actually come to enjoy coffee without anything added as well.

I will occasionally have a soda again. My goal here is 30 straight days without. Then I will allow one occasionally. The idea is it will be treated like an occasional treat or desert.
 

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I will occasionally have a soda again. My goal here is 30 straight days without. Then I will allow one occasionally. The idea is it will be treated like an occasional treat or desert.
Just not having it in the house can make a big difference. I've gotten to the point now where I can keep some in the fridge for guests sometimes, and I won't touch it. I couldn't have trusted myself with that at one time though.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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