"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Noob plate-spinner question.

Dong_Juan

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According to Rollo Tomassi, you should not be explicit about being noncommittal, but should imply as much.

What are some ways that you have successfully done this?

If a plate straight up asks you if you are seeing other women, do you just reply honestly and hope for the best?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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I'd smile at her and say - may the best women win.

Works just fine for me and keeps her in a competitive mood.
 

zekko

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According to Rollo Tomassi, you should not be explicit about being noncommittal, but should imply as much.
That's great if you can do it, but it doesn't always work out that way.

If a girl really wants to know, she's not going to settle for a cute, evasive answer. She will ask you point blank until you either lie to her or tell her the truth. Even Spaz' answer above is basically an admission. Sometimes you have to do whatever you do, and let the chips fall where they may.
 

fanatic22

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According to Rollo Tomassi, you should not be explicit about being noncommittal, but should imply as much.

What are some ways that you have successfully done this?

If a plate straight up asks you if you are seeing other women, do you just reply honestly and hope for the best?
I say "yeah and I expect you to be seeing other men." I do care about people and if my plate finds a guy who is willing to commit, I'm happy to see her go.
 
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