“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Non-religious celibacy?

SamePendo

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I have heard about two kinds of celibacy. Or in plain words, no sex until you get married.

One, is religious, and has bases on religion.
The other, is because that makes them a better catch? Which I don't completely understand because I haven't heard about it in depth. So I won't criticize it for I don't understand it fully. If some of you know about this please explain.

But, I have a third theory. And it's pretty simple I think.
If you are looking for a LTR. You want to have sex with the hottest woman, right? Or the one next to being the hottest, or the one next to that, or, or, or, until you get down to the wild boar hehe.
But, in the LTR mindset, yes you do look for the hottest one, but you can lose focus, and look for sex, and that can blind you from being with someone who truly is worth it.

Most relationships, you take out the sex in it, and you are left with no relationship at all.
And you'll surely say, something like this "but if you value yourself as a DJ with other options, you can't have this issue". Probably. But if you are really in a mono-relationship, you can sink and sink into that world, in a way.

And, there is the sexual transmutation stuff. While you work on your life objectives, your art, and concentrate on it, you meanwhile don't settle for anything but the best.
And, I just thought of this. My personal theory is that sex can ... damage, wome (and men in that case). Because a woman who has had sex and enjoys it for the sex, not for the feelings etc, stops looking at you as a man, and starts looking at you as a sex machine, as someone who can bring her sexual pleasure, not soul pleasure. Catch my drift?
Ok, and, if you look for a fit woman, you should be fit, right? If you look for a woman with culture, you should be cultured, etc etc.
So, if you look for a woman who takes care of her femininity/purity, etc, you should too? I'm guessing this last point is the basis of the second theory I've heard about, right?

Did I explain myself? Hope so,
 

Just because a woman listens to you and acts interested in what you say doesn't mean she really is. She might just be acting polite, while silently wishing that the date would hurry up and end, or that you would go away... and never come back.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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I am an athiest and was celebant for almost 4 years. and you are actually for the most part, spot on. I had started a business venture when I was 18, and put all my time into it. I raitonally thougth it out, and I knew that 1. I would not be able to date the woman I really wanted to date for more than one reason while putting all this time into my business 2. I was not the person who I wanted to be yet.

I equate it like this. In the grand sheme of things, who has the absolute most fun on the dating scene? At least the way I see it, it's the single 32 year old that has his **** together. he didn't go out and party and try to fvck women every night, he studied, worked, got in shape, got his financies in order. now that he has worked hard, he is more of a catch. instead of being in debt, becuase of the woman who when you were 25 put it on you and convinced you to settle down, now you are divorced and paying her, you have no long term debt. in fact you have great credit. instead of driving your hootpie that you fixed up, you drive a 2009 BMW. Why? Becuase you freaking can that's why.

you are in shape, becuase you are used to being in shape. By holding out and bettering yourself, you show yourself you are not afraid to be alone. I have a GF of almost 2 years now, and I'm crazy about her, but she knows (trust me) that i have no qualms about being single if need be.

at least to me, is to get to 30 in the best possible shape. No kids, no excess baggage, good debt, good looks, good finanices, well rounded, well read.

your 20's should be spent getting your **** in order. I know that's not popular on a forum full of 20's, but that's my opinion.
 
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I'm not religous,yet I am celibate,involuntary,and I haven't spent much time getting my **** together,and it feels it's catching up on me.
 
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