"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Biggie

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So recently there have been a couple things that I do every once in a while, and I realized they are not masculine at all. So i thought maybe if I could write these things down and try to focus on not doing them, it could help me become more masculine.

I'll make a list:
1) I speak in a higher voice to some people (Mainly people in authority)
2) Sometimes i skip instead of walking
3) I tend to hunch forward a little bit
4) I say "Awww" to some girls in like a girly way
5) I have some feminine mannerisms
6) I'm way too caring about others' feelings
7) I'm skinny

I'll add more when I think of them. Also, how about any of you? What are some things you do that aren't so masculine that you'd like to stop doing? And on the flip side, what are some masculine things you do that help you get women?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Alle_Gory

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Biggie said:
1) I speak in a higher voice to some people (Mainly people in authority)
Not cool.

2) Sometimes i skip instead of walking
So? Does this happen often enough to be a problem?

3) I tend to hunch forward a little bit
That's bad posture. Better fix that.

4) I say "Awww" to some girls in like a girly way
So?

5) I have some feminine mannerisms
Like what?

6) I'm way too caring about others' feelings
This isn't really a problem. It becomes a problem if you can't control it and do what you need to do. Feelings are great, but you must have some sort of control otherwise they control you.

Also, how about any of you? What are some things you do that aren't so masculine that you'd like to stop doing? And on the flip side, what are some masculine things you do that help you get women?
I like to cook. I like to make a nice place to live, I like interior design. Is this feminine? Most people think so, but I don't give a fvck. I also like to use women's shampoos and cleaners but I don't give a ****. They work great for hair and skin cleaning and they're cheap.

Personally I could care less what some random people that I don't care to know think of me.
 

Jariel

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It's very good you are able to look at yourself and identify these issues. Self awareness is essential to self improvement, and now all you need to do is find a solution to these problems.

One solution is to consciously focus on not doing them any more.

The other is to build your testosterone levels and masculinity the natural way. I second buckley on this one and suggest hitting the gym and eating a bulking diet. I had big issues with being too sweet and nice for many years, but the gym sorted that all out for me, gave me confidence, boldness and a presence.

I started a thread in H+F about what foods/supplements to eat in order to increase sex drive and testosterone: http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=185315

I find when my sex drive is high, my game is on peak form!
 

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Biggie said:
So recently there have been a couple things that I do every once in a while, and I realized they are not masculine at all. So i thought maybe if I could write these things down and try to focus on not doing them, it could help me become more masculine.

I'll make a list:
1) I speak in a higher voice to some people (Mainly people in authority)
2) Sometimes i skip instead of walking
3) I tend to hunch forward a little bit
4) I say "Awww" to some girls in like a girly way
5) I have some feminine mannerisms
6) I'm way too caring about others' feelings
7) I'm skinny

I'll add more when I think of them. Also, how about any of you? What are some things you do that aren't so masculine that you'd like to stop doing? And on the flip side, what are some masculine things you do that help you get women?
Judging yourself so harshly about these things is more "feminine" than the actual things you listed.

Your voice is your voice. Your mannerisms are your mannerisms. You can still be YOU.....just try to make yourself into a better YOU.

We all weren't born to be Braveheart.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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