"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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All this talk about emmy nominated people got me thinking.

What if there was an option to "nominate" a certain post for deletion.

there are TONS of crappy/stupid tips, and stupid afc questions, and arguements, etc etc etc, what if we had a button to click, next to the "quote" and "edit" that said "delete"

and when more then 10 people click this button, a message alerts a moderator, then they are more likely to notice a crappy thread and delete it.

conservation of server space, less crap to go through to get to the good posts, and moderators jobs made easier.


:)
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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that would be sweet.....now
BUT what happens when AFCs and equal amount of 16-18 year old girls take over sosuave in the not to distant future?

I can see it now, some crazy mofo with no fear and mad amounts of testosterone (a freak of nature in times to come) starts up a post with a heading **WHY YOU DONT BRING FLOWERS TO THE FIRST DATE** or **BUY YOUR OWN DRINK, AND WHILE YOUR UP THERE GET ME ONE**

it would be deleted as soon as the dude hit send.

is overreacting one word or two?
 

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This post gets my nomination...I mean, to delete other posts...
 

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Try using the "Report this post to a moderator" link at the lower right corner of every message. It's default to send an e-mail message to all moderators of a particular forum with your report.

As for server space, copy and paste the text of any of the messages you deem inappropriate into a text file and save it. Then check to see its compressed and uncompressed file size.

For instance, the size of your message including the smiley graphic, oreo_renegade, is about 1 Kb. If Allen's concern was bandwidth or server space, he would notify his users of the problem, and sosuave.com would implement a sponsorship system like so many other forums.

In regards to wading through the lesser quality messages to get to one you deem greater quality, spend more time offsite than reading every message posted to these forums.
 

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Good Points

Originally posted by Demon

In regards to wading through the lesser quality messages to get to one you deem greater quality, spend more time offsite than reading every message posted to these forums.
Its not that "wading through" posts, its that I come into a forum, and see the first page loaded with stupid sh1t. I have to go back a couple of pages before there is even anything interesting.

This causes people to glance in, see nothing interesting, and leave.



That happened to the Unusual Tech's forum, it got overloaded with dumb sh1t, people stopped taking time to actually LOOK at what SS is, and how to use it properly, dismissed it as fasle, and moved on.


In the future, I can envision a person first coming to sosuave, seeing the giant social forum it has become, and then simply staying here like a web chat room.

There would be no more "purpose" for this forum, it would just be a place where people come to kill time.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Originally posted by Demon
Try using the "Report this post to a moderator" link at the lower right corner of every message. It's default to send an e-mail message to all moderators of a particular forum with your report.

As for server space, copy and paste the text of any of the messages you deem inappropriate into a text file and save it. Then check to see its compressed and uncompressed file size.

For instance, the size of your message including the smiley graphic, oreo_renegade, is about 1 Kb. If Allen's concern was bandwidth or server space, he would notify his users of the problem, and sosuave.com would implement a sponsorship system like so many other forums.

In regards to wading through the lesser quality messages to get to one you deem greater quality, spend more time offsite than reading every message posted to these forums.
damn i pressed that button a couple times tryin to get rid of your a$$:D
 
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