"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Noise pollution from my neighbour downstairs

Hemingway

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I called the cops on a neighbor and they came back and told me the guy worked as a ramp agent at the airport and had significant hearing loss, so they told him to get a set of headphones for the TV. After their report back to me, I had a little more compassion for the neighbor. I'm guessing 90% of the time you won't get cops who do their jobs as well as these guys did.

For the roommate situation, get in a position to make enough money that you don't need a roommate. Then if you want, you can get an Indian programmer visiting on an H1 visa to share your flat, on condition that they leave no deposit and sign no lease. Then you can kick them out whenever you want. But it turns out they make great roommates. I've had three. They all left suddenly for jobs in other states, but I didn't need their money to pay the rent, the extra cash was just a bonus.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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