"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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NOFAP AUGUUUUUUUUSTTTTTTTT 2017!!!!!

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Day2 for me. I noticed last month, more ladies making eye contact at the grocery store. I felt more relaxed in my interactions with them too at social events. Been about a month since my last date, so hopefully, I'll get some #s or the ball rolling this month.

A few things that are working that are complimenting NoFap:
- Progressing more in academics
- Graduated with my bachelor's degree this summer
- Now, planning for grad school admissions
- Progressing in the gym (shirts feel tighter and better, love that feeling)
- Cold showers
- Finding contentment in life overall
- Improving diet to a more plant-based diet after bulking fast April~July this year
- Guitar skills improving
- Social spheres expanding/taking more leadership role in leading a group
- More genuine in conversational interactions

Still want to look less for validation that lingers from previous issues. Be more present in the set.

I'll see how things go this month. At the end of this month, I'll be celebrating one-year divorced. :D

 
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Good luck this month, guys. Make NoFap productive chase some goals you've been after for a while, yet felt lazy or unmotivated to chase em'. The world is your oyster! ;)
 

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BOOOM! I'm day one today. Whole month, let's go!
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Definatley in

i'm on day 27 at the moment, at the beginning of last month i hit a rock bottom in regards to my life, and porn addiction has been a huge problem for me for many years. I know from previous experience that it makes a huge difference to be off of it.

In only 27 days i have gone from maybe a 1/10 mood to around a 6 and noticing good benefits.

I am seeing a therapist too, the goal is to deal with the root cause of the reason i am a porn addict in the first place, so that relapsing won't ever be an issue again.
 

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I despair what chance young men may have in life when they are so easily and constantly 'brutalized' by hard core pornography at the click of a button.
 

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I think the root cause of porn addiction for me was sheer laziness. It allows you to sit at home and be a couch potato while seeking sexual gratification through a screen. The problems really start when you get bored watching the same ol' same ol' suck and fukk and you start delving into really bizarre fetishes. It got to a point where I couldn't even get aroused watching regular porn. I had to see the women get abused and degraded for me to get turned on. It's like a drug addict who has to keep escalating his drugs in order to get high because they built up an immunity to it. It is some scary ****.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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I think the root cause of porn addiction for me was sheer laziness. It allows you to sit at home and be a couch potato while seeking sexual gratification through a screen. The problems really start when you get bored watching the same ol' same ol' suck and fukk and you start delving into really bizarre fetishes. It got to a point where I couldn't even get aroused watching regular porn. I had to see the women get abused and degraded for me to get turned on. It's like a drug addict who has to keep escalating his drugs in order to get high because they built up an immunity to it. It is some scary ****.
Yes, it is vicious corrupting stuff, and just shows how degraded we have become, as a society, all in the name of 'freedom'. Men who want real freedom in the lives have to 'go feudal'.
 

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I don't even know how long it's been since I fapped, but I'm in. Got an unfair advantage though since I have a girlfriend.
 

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Spiderman knows when you fap.



day4 / social game FR
Last night I went to the movies with a new social group. A chick that just graduated with a PhD in a healthcare field just moved to my city. She was talking to me a lot at dinner, gave me half her food because I just ordered a beer, heh. I noticed some interesting proximity before and after the movie. She leaned in / tilted heavily with body language while standing, yet didn't rub shoulders. To see if she would calibrate to me, I moved slightly back and next to my guy friend, she closed the gap. Lol.... I had another girl next to me at dinner give me half her burger too. She asked more questions about me, maybe jelly of the other girl giving me attention.

Anyway, during the movie, this other guy next to me told me "Dude. Didn't you see her big fat engagement ring at dinner? She's engaged, man. Her fiance is back mid-west and hasn't moved out yet. She's out tonight for attention." "Me: Yeah, cool. Whatever."
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Had sex with a girl but I finished with her by fapping. Does that count as a fap?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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