"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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NOFAP AUGUUUUUUUUSTTTTTTTT 2017!!!!!

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Day2 for me. I noticed last month, more ladies making eye contact at the grocery store. I felt more relaxed in my interactions with them too at social events. Been about a month since my last date, so hopefully, I'll get some #s or the ball rolling this month.

A few things that are working that are complimenting NoFap:
- Progressing more in academics
- Graduated with my bachelor's degree this summer
- Now, planning for grad school admissions
- Progressing in the gym (shirts feel tighter and better, love that feeling)
- Cold showers
- Finding contentment in life overall
- Improving diet to a more plant-based diet after bulking fast April~July this year
- Guitar skills improving
- Social spheres expanding/taking more leadership role in leading a group
- More genuine in conversational interactions

Still want to look less for validation that lingers from previous issues. Be more present in the set.

I'll see how things go this month. At the end of this month, I'll be celebrating one-year divorced. :D

 
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Good luck this month, guys. Make NoFap productive chase some goals you've been after for a while, yet felt lazy or unmotivated to chase em'. The world is your oyster! ;)
 

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BOOOM! I'm day one today. Whole month, let's go!
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Definatley in

i'm on day 27 at the moment, at the beginning of last month i hit a rock bottom in regards to my life, and porn addiction has been a huge problem for me for many years. I know from previous experience that it makes a huge difference to be off of it.

In only 27 days i have gone from maybe a 1/10 mood to around a 6 and noticing good benefits.

I am seeing a therapist too, the goal is to deal with the root cause of the reason i am a porn addict in the first place, so that relapsing won't ever be an issue again.
 

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I despair what chance young men may have in life when they are so easily and constantly 'brutalized' by hard core pornography at the click of a button.
 

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I think the root cause of porn addiction for me was sheer laziness. It allows you to sit at home and be a couch potato while seeking sexual gratification through a screen. The problems really start when you get bored watching the same ol' same ol' suck and fukk and you start delving into really bizarre fetishes. It got to a point where I couldn't even get aroused watching regular porn. I had to see the women get abused and degraded for me to get turned on. It's like a drug addict who has to keep escalating his drugs in order to get high because they built up an immunity to it. It is some scary ****.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I think the root cause of porn addiction for me was sheer laziness. It allows you to sit at home and be a couch potato while seeking sexual gratification through a screen. The problems really start when you get bored watching the same ol' same ol' suck and fukk and you start delving into really bizarre fetishes. It got to a point where I couldn't even get aroused watching regular porn. I had to see the women get abused and degraded for me to get turned on. It's like a drug addict who has to keep escalating his drugs in order to get high because they built up an immunity to it. It is some scary ****.
Yes, it is vicious corrupting stuff, and just shows how degraded we have become, as a society, all in the name of 'freedom'. Men who want real freedom in the lives have to 'go feudal'.
 

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I don't even know how long it's been since I fapped, but I'm in. Got an unfair advantage though since I have a girlfriend.
 

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Spiderman knows when you fap.



day4 / social game FR
Last night I went to the movies with a new social group. A chick that just graduated with a PhD in a healthcare field just moved to my city. She was talking to me a lot at dinner, gave me half her food because I just ordered a beer, heh. I noticed some interesting proximity before and after the movie. She leaned in / tilted heavily with body language while standing, yet didn't rub shoulders. To see if she would calibrate to me, I moved slightly back and next to my guy friend, she closed the gap. Lol.... I had another girl next to me at dinner give me half her burger too. She asked more questions about me, maybe jelly of the other girl giving me attention.

Anyway, during the movie, this other guy next to me told me "Dude. Didn't you see her big fat engagement ring at dinner? She's engaged, man. Her fiance is back mid-west and hasn't moved out yet. She's out tonight for attention." "Me: Yeah, cool. Whatever."
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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Had sex with a girl but I finished with her by fapping. Does that count as a fap?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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