That's strange. Did you have your testosterone level check?
This has been mentioned on here before. I'm sure it's certainly lower than it was 20 years ago, but
that's natural given that I'm 48 in a couple of months. I'm UK based and it's hard to get to see a NHS doctor
for life threatening stuff at the moment let alone something non essential like that which only leaves the
option of going private which I simply can't afford. T treatments are commonplace in the US but not so
much here in the UK. It will cost me £50 just to get a check never mind any necessary ongoing treatment
after that. The outward indicators are all good, decent musculature, deep voice, plenty of facial hair etc.
The autism is definitely a factor though.
When you say bewildering, what do you mean by that? Like too intense? I know that oftentimes people with aspies don’t like physical affection and closeness too much because of that but I’m not sure if that’s the right way to put it.
There’s also another thing—you said you tried nofap for a month, implying before you actually were jerking off. This points towards the problem not being libido per se, but something else. Do you actually have no sex drive or is it there? How would you describe this phenomenon for you?
That's pretty close to the truth, I don't like being touched by anybody at all. I find the female form stimulating when
it's just an image on a screen but dealing with the real thing is very confusing for me. The woman I married pursued
me from the outset, we'd have never gotten together at all if it had been left to me to make an advance. Honestly? I
fap mostly to either keep me calmer as I can get worked up easily or to help me sleep when my mind starts racing. I just
feel like females are an alien species and I don't know what's expected of me in terms of conversation or behaviour or
how to escalate. It seems to me a bit rapey to proceed regardless of even minor resistance and my wife does have a
point, I don't particularly like women. Like being the operative word here. I think most of them are utter lunatics, with
over inflated egos and I won't entertain any of that BS just for access to a damp hole.
That's because it's a placebo effect. I can approach women no matter if I just fapped or not,it doesn't change anything in my opinion.
I was just giving it a try to see if it made any difference to my behaviour with regard to making advances.