"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Nobody fears hearing no

S. Pryor

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Men don't care if a girl says "no I'm not interested" or "I'm sorry but I have a boyfriend". Those lines are weaker than sugarless Kool-Aid. What we really fear is GETTING SHITTED ON! Nobody wants to be in a situation where you're talking to a girl and you KNOW she hears you but she doesn't say anything. Nobody wants to talk to a girl and she just stares at you like "why are you talking to me?" Even worse she verbalizes it! "WHY THE FUCK ARE YOU TALKING TO ME?" "GET THE FUCK AWAY FROM MEEEEEEEEE!!!!! You don't want to be in a situation where a girl flips her fucking lid! If she says something like "I just got out of a relationship and I'm not looking to date right now" that's not bad. We don't mind being "rejected" but no one wants to be disrespected. Why can't we just be honest in saying that?
 
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Just a Shot Away

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You're speaking for yourself, man. A girl that I took a year to work up the courage to ask her out told me 2 months and 27 days ago that she couldn't go to lunch with me because she had a boyfriend, and I'm STILL trying to decide whether or not she was telling the truth, and if she wasn't...why?

I think most people will agree that any type of rejection is unwelcome.
 

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Granted you didn't want to hear that but it's not like she tried to do some soul crushing shit to you just because you wanted to talk to her. If you didn't believe she was telling the truth then you could have run some boyfriend destroyers on her. I know that that's shunned upon here for the most part but at least you'd know the truth. She could either really have a bf or she'd end up confiding to you that she just says that to get rid of guys and end up having sex with you.
 
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Just a Shot Away said:
You're speaking for yourself, man. A girl that I took a year to work up the courage to ask her out told me 2 months and 27 days ago that she couldn't go to lunch with me because she had a boyfriend, and I'm STILL trying to decide whether or not she was telling the truth, and if she wasn't...why?

I think most people will agree that any type of rejection is unwelcome.
:nono: Just move on.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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S. Pryor said:
Men don't care if a girl says "no I'm not interested" or "I'm sorry but I have a boyfriend". Those lines are weaker than sugarless Kool-Aid. What we really fear is GETTING SHITTED ON! Nobody wants to be in a situation where you're talking to a girl and you KNOW she hears you but she doesn't say anything. Nobody wants to talk to a girl and she just stares at you like "why are talking to me?" Even worse she verbalizes it! "WHY THE FUCK ARE YOU TALKING TO ME?" "GET THE FUCK AWAY FROM MEEEEEEEEE!!!!! You don't want to be in a situation where a girl flips her fucking lid! If she says something like "I just got out of a relationship and I'm not looking to date right now" that's not bad. We don't mind being "rejected" but no one wants to be disrespected. Why can't we just be honest in saying that?
I agree completely. I tried to make eye contact with this girl the other day. I was just going to say hi. I wasn't trying to pick her up. She literally rolled her eyes at me. The rejection didn't bother me, but I was quite offended by the disrespect.
 

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She rolled her eyes at you? What was your response? I would stop her and mention how rude that is.. and perhaps ignore her for the rest of your life.

Just move on. Although it doesn't sound it, that is the best advice for you in this scenario. Whether she has a boyfriend or not, she is not interested. You would be wise to focus your attention on improving your game and hitting the gym a bit more, you have to put yourself in a position where you have multiple options.

Hope this helped.
 

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Mike32ct said:
I agree completely. I tried to make eye contact with this girl the other day. I was just going to say hi. I wasn't trying to pick her up. She literally rolled her eyes at me. The rejection didn't bother me, but I was quite offended by the disrespect.
Spit some beech nut in her eye next time.
 

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lugsy211 said:
She rolled her eyes at you? What was your response? I would stop her and mention how rude that is.. and perhaps ignore her for the rest of your life.

Just move on. Although it doesn't sound it, that is the best advice for you in this scenario. Whether she has a boyfriend or not, she is not interested. You would be wise to focus your attention on improving your game and hitting the gym a bit more, you have to put yourself in a position where you have multiple options.

Hope this helped.
Yes, she did. I didn't respond. I just walked away. It caught me off-guard, and I didn't know what to say. I should have at least called her out on the rudeness before I walked away. This happened at bar.
 
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