"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Nobody fears hearing no

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Men don't care if a girl says "no I'm not interested" or "I'm sorry but I have a boyfriend". Those lines are weaker than sugarless Kool-Aid. What we really fear is GETTING SHITTED ON! Nobody wants to be in a situation where you're talking to a girl and you KNOW she hears you but she doesn't say anything. Nobody wants to talk to a girl and she just stares at you like "why are you talking to me?" Even worse she verbalizes it! "WHY THE FUCK ARE YOU TALKING TO ME?" "GET THE FUCK AWAY FROM MEEEEEEEEE!!!!! You don't want to be in a situation where a girl flips her fucking lid! If she says something like "I just got out of a relationship and I'm not looking to date right now" that's not bad. We don't mind being "rejected" but no one wants to be disrespected. Why can't we just be honest in saying that?
 
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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You're speaking for yourself, man. A girl that I took a year to work up the courage to ask her out told me 2 months and 27 days ago that she couldn't go to lunch with me because she had a boyfriend, and I'm STILL trying to decide whether or not she was telling the truth, and if she wasn't...why?

I think most people will agree that any type of rejection is unwelcome.
 
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Granted you didn't want to hear that but it's not like she tried to do some soul crushing shit to you just because you wanted to talk to her. If you didn't believe she was telling the truth then you could have run some boyfriend destroyers on her. I know that that's shunned upon here for the most part but at least you'd know the truth. She could either really have a bf or she'd end up confiding to you that she just says that to get rid of guys and end up having sex with you.
 
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Just a Shot Away said:
You're speaking for yourself, man. A girl that I took a year to work up the courage to ask her out told me 2 months and 27 days ago that she couldn't go to lunch with me because she had a boyfriend, and I'm STILL trying to decide whether or not she was telling the truth, and if she wasn't...why?

I think most people will agree that any type of rejection is unwelcome.
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:nono: Just move on.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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S. Pryor said:
Men don't care if a girl says "no I'm not interested" or "I'm sorry but I have a boyfriend". Those lines are weaker than sugarless Kool-Aid. What we really fear is GETTING SHITTED ON! Nobody wants to be in a situation where you're talking to a girl and you KNOW she hears you but she doesn't say anything. Nobody wants to talk to a girl and she just stares at you like "why are talking to me?" Even worse she verbalizes it! "WHY THE FUCK ARE YOU TALKING TO ME?" "GET THE FUCK AWAY FROM MEEEEEEEEE!!!!! You don't want to be in a situation where a girl flips her fucking lid! If she says something like "I just got out of a relationship and I'm not looking to date right now" that's not bad. We don't mind being "rejected" but no one wants to be disrespected. Why can't we just be honest in saying that?
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I agree completely. I tried to make eye contact with this girl the other day. I was just going to say hi. I wasn't trying to pick her up. She literally rolled her eyes at me. The rejection didn't bother me, but I was quite offended by the disrespect.
 
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She rolled her eyes at you? What was your response? I would stop her and mention how rude that is.. and perhaps ignore her for the rest of your life.

Just move on. Although it doesn't sound it, that is the best advice for you in this scenario. Whether she has a boyfriend or not, she is not interested. You would be wise to focus your attention on improving your game and hitting the gym a bit more, you have to put yourself in a position where you have multiple options.

Hope this helped.
 
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I agree completely. I tried to make eye contact with this girl the other day. I was just going to say hi. I wasn't trying to pick her up. She literally rolled her eyes at me. The rejection didn't bother me, but I was quite offended by the disrespect.
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Spit some beech nut in her eye next time.
 
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She rolled her eyes at you? What was your response? I would stop her and mention how rude that is.. and perhaps ignore her for the rest of your life.

Just move on. Although it doesn't sound it, that is the best advice for you in this scenario. Whether she has a boyfriend or not, she is not interested. You would be wise to focus your attention on improving your game and hitting the gym a bit more, you have to put yourself in a position where you have multiple options.

Hope this helped.
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Yes, she did. I didn't respond. I just walked away. It caught me off-guard, and I didn't know what to say. I should have at least called her out on the rudeness before I walked away. This happened at bar.
 
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