"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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No, You Are Not Overreacting!

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Dudes, after many problems with my (now ex) GF I came to a conclusion and like to share it with you.

If there's one thing that woman will try to convince us, ALWAYS, is that we are overreacting in any situation.

"I think you're overreacting. There's no need to be jealous".
"You shouldn't be mad if she is with other guy now having lunch and is going to have some coffee at his apartment later. You're overreacting.".

IT'S YOUR LIFE! It HAS to be in your terms. Doesn't matter if you're right or wrong, you're NOT going to be happy if you don't feel right about it. You don't have to put up with ANYTHING.

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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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You've misunderstood what they mean by "overreacting".

They don't mean "your emotional reaction is disproportionate to the situation and not justified".

They mean "you're acting like a woman and I find this extremely unattractive."

A REAL MAN is in full control of himself at all times and would never allow something so petty to influence him like that.

Men don't allow their emotions to dictate their actions, that would be reacting. Men act, they don't react.

So your girl is gonna be fvcking some other guy. You feel a strong negative emotional reaction. But you don't start ranting and raving and worrying and yelling like a woman. You acknowledge your feelings and rationally decide on your next course of action, which in the case of your b!tch cheating on you, should be to kick her out on her ass.
 

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The point is not to lose control or anything like that.

What I'm trying to say is, if something happens to you and you want to do something, THAT'S WHAT YOU DO.

Just like when you see your girl flirting with other guys. That's NOT acceptable. You don't go screaming and yelling like a little girl. You just give her what she deserve. Ok, but happens all the time: LATER, many many people are going to try to convince you that you "overreacted" when in fact you did what you KNOW was right. This is a trap, that I except that no one of us DJs fall to.

Guilty is a powerful and destructive feeling.

EDIT: when I said that flirting with other guys was not acceptable, I mean that IF you don't think it's acceptable than it is not. That's YOUR choice, and no one (man or woman) should question you for this. Nevermind telling you that you're being unfair.

(sorry, I'm not fluent in english! :))

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lol, think this goes back to our 'protector' days dj. When there were no laws, another guy could just take your chick and rape her when she was out or you weren't around.

In today's world, there are all kinds of laws protecting from this, which is a good thing, but hasn't diminished our ancestor males need for protecting his woman.

Women don't have that same kind of 'protection' factor going on. Some do understand how it works though.
 
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