InsidiousNstinct
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Yep...that freakin book is huge. Im plaining on buying it. I got to like law 14 and quit haha.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
NO whiners
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
penkitten
Master Don Juan
lets all make it an issue to try to get rid of some negativity and away from some toxic people that spread it.
we may not be 100% happy all the time, but we dont have to act 100% unhappy all the time !!
good to see some points of view on this matter.
we may not be 100% happy all the time, but we dont have to act 100% unhappy all the time !!
good to see some points of view on this matter.
SELF-MASTERY
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i'M TRYING To figure out if Im negative or a realist.... I wonder if there's anything wrong with calling sh** sh**?
As much as I hate the whiners, i hate the think positive crows as much.... Every problem or emotion doesnt have a quick solution......
As much as I hate the whiners, i hate the think positive crows as much.... Every problem or emotion doesnt have a quick solution......
Poindexter
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The 48 Laws of Power should have been a standard text for you DJ's, as well as, 'The Art of Seduction', by the same author. I'd be quite surprised if you hadn't read one or both of these considering your apparent interests...
InsidiousNstinct
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2/3 of the way done with it. Really good book. I've learned more with it than wit hthe DJ bible or David D material, etc.
*Gets the feeling he's doing a commerical*
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Dimebag_Darrell
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I whine because it keeps me from both becoming a pushover and avoiding a ride to the police department for 1st degree battery
SELF-MASTERY
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oh no a tough guy whiner:woo:
Heh, Good post..
I learned a great thing in the military, it's what our drill instructors kept shouting at us, once anyone complained:
Love the situation.
ALLWAYS love the situation. Does whining help? No, it just brings other people down too.
So, you're single, congratulations, you are now free to decide what to do yourself, you can screw any woman you'd like, take a dump with the door open, and you don't have to put the seat down after taking a piss...
Positive outlook on life, helps alot. And besides, who likes a whiner??
//Deus
I learned a great thing in the military, it's what our drill instructors kept shouting at us, once anyone complained:
Love the situation.
ALLWAYS love the situation. Does whining help? No, it just brings other people down too.
So, you're single, congratulations, you are now free to decide what to do yourself, you can screw any woman you'd like, take a dump with the door open, and you don't have to put the seat down after taking a piss...
Positive outlook on life, helps alot. And besides, who likes a whiner??
//Deus
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
No matter what situation your in, If there's nothing you can do about it to improve it, just learn to like/love it.
Allways look at the positive sides of ANY GIVEN situaton.
It takes some time to get used to the idea, but, we all learn this lesson sooner or later.
It's all about being enthustiastic and optimistic.
Let's take the old annalogy "is the glass off orange juice half full, or half empty"
Who cares? as long as it ain't to the brim, you can pour in some Jaegermeifter and make a decent drink out of it...
THATS the mindset to strive for...
//deus
Allways look at the positive sides of ANY GIVEN situaton.
It takes some time to get used to the idea, but, we all learn this lesson sooner or later.
It's all about being enthustiastic and optimistic.
Let's take the old annalogy "is the glass off orange juice half full, or half empty"
Who cares? as long as it ain't to the brim, you can pour in some Jaegermeifter and make a decent drink out of it...
THATS the mindset to strive for...
//deus
Well, For me, it finally dawned that it was a waste of energy and that I brought my squadmates down, when I was walking in piss rain, - degrees C, with 2 broken bones in my left foot and carrying my gear and backpack, my mates backpack, my standard AK5, a anti tank weapon, and a tank mine at 2.15 am a tuesday morning.
I think it's up to individual, and his life experiences. When you hit rock bottom, you can only head up.
Maybe I'm just crazy, cracked and became a lunatic. OR I reached enlightenement.
//Deus
I think it's up to individual, and his life experiences. When you hit rock bottom, you can only head up.
Maybe I'm just crazy, cracked and became a lunatic. OR I reached enlightenement.
//Deus
Impressive! I've heard military training does things to your mind that make you impervious to hardship like that.
Unfortunately, I've got a long way to go before I hit rock bottom.
I'm at that neutral point where life doesn't suck, but isn't a 24 hour ego trip either, so I have zero motivation.
Unfortunately, I've got a long way to go before I hit rock bottom.
I'm at that neutral point where life doesn't suck, but isn't a 24 hour ego trip either, so I have zero motivation.
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Cool! So you're in a neutral point??
That's GREAT Just pour on the Jaegermeifter and get going!!
You ain't even feeling ****ty with yourself??
Glue that smile on and your set!
Hah! Keep it up! your doing great!!
//Deus
That's GREAT Just pour on the Jaegermeifter and get going!!
You ain't even feeling ****ty with yourself??
Glue that smile on and your set!Hah! Keep it up! your doing great!!
//Deus
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
The worst thing in the world that you can be is ambivalent ... at least with feeling sh!tty you're motivated to improve things.
Nirvana is overrated; especially if you're the kind of guy who can enjoy pain as well as pleasure.
Nirvana is overrated; especially if you're the kind of guy who can enjoy pain as well as pleasure.
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penkitten
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is there truely a nirvana ?
i cant imagine that here in this life.