"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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NO whiners

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Yep...that freakin book is huge. Im plaining on buying it. I got to like law 14 and quit haha.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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lets all make it an issue to try to get rid of some negativity and away from some toxic people that spread it.

we may not be 100% happy all the time, but we dont have to act 100% unhappy all the time !!

good to see some points of view on this matter.
 

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i'M TRYING To figure out if Im negative or a realist.... I wonder if there's anything wrong with calling sh** sh**?

As much as I hate the whiners, i hate the think positive crows as much.... Every problem or emotion doesnt have a quick solution......
 

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The 48 Laws of Power should have been a standard text for you DJ's, as well as, 'The Art of Seduction', by the same author. I'd be quite surprised if you hadn't read one or both of these considering your apparent interests...
 

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'The Art of Seduction', by the same author. I'd be quite surprised if you hadn't read one or both of these considering your apparent interests...

2/3 of the way done with it. Really good book. I've learned more with it than wit hthe DJ bible or David D material, etc.

*Gets the feeling he's doing a commerical*
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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yeah women already have a ton of problems

the last thing they want to hear is yours:D
 
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I whine because it keeps me from both becoming a pushover and avoiding a ride to the police department for 1st degree battery
 

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oh no a tough guy whiner:woo:
 

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Heh, Good post..

I learned a great thing in the military, it's what our drill instructors kept shouting at us, once anyone complained:

Love the situation.

ALLWAYS love the situation. Does whining help? No, it just brings other people down too.

So, you're single, congratulations, you are now free to decide what to do yourself, you can screw any woman you'd like, take a dump with the door open, and you don't have to put the seat down after taking a piss...

Positive outlook on life, helps alot. And besides, who likes a whiner??

//Deus
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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No matter what situation your in, If there's nothing you can do about it to improve it, just learn to like/love it.

Allways look at the positive sides of ANY GIVEN situaton.

It takes some time to get used to the idea, but, we all learn this lesson sooner or later.

It's all about being enthustiastic and optimistic.

Let's take the old annalogy "is the glass off orange juice half full, or half empty"

Who cares? as long as it ain't to the brim, you can pour in some Jaegermeifter and make a decent drink out of it...

THATS the mindset to strive for...

//deus
 

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I knew that.

I was curious as to what you actually have to do to reach that point, especially since a guy usually doesn't have a say in how he feels about things.
 
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Well, For me, it finally dawned that it was a waste of energy and that I brought my squadmates down, when I was walking in piss rain, - degrees C, with 2 broken bones in my left foot and carrying my gear and backpack, my mates backpack, my standard AK5, a anti tank weapon, and a tank mine at 2.15 am a tuesday morning.

I think it's up to individual, and his life experiences. When you hit rock bottom, you can only head up.

Maybe I'm just crazy, cracked and became a lunatic. OR I reached enlightenement.

//Deus
 

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Impressive! I've heard military training does things to your mind that make you impervious to hardship like that.

Unfortunately, I've got a long way to go before I hit rock bottom.

I'm at that neutral point where life doesn't suck, but isn't a 24 hour ego trip either, so I have zero motivation.
 
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Cool! So you're in a neutral point??
That's GREAT Just pour on the Jaegermeifter and get going!!

You ain't even feeling ****ty with yourself?? :up: Glue that smile on and your set!

Hah! Keep it up! your doing great!!

//Deus
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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The worst thing in the world that you can be is ambivalent ... at least with feeling sh!tty you're motivated to improve things.

Nirvana is overrated; especially if you're the kind of guy who can enjoy pain as well as pleasure.
 
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Originally posted by Giovanni Casanova
Shows how little I know.
For the first time in a couple of years Casanova, you and I are in total agreement. I am pleased to see this progress. PK, I will reply to the marraige post soon.

--Crowes
 

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Originally posted by Visceral


Nirvana is overrated; especially if you're the kind of guy who can enjoy pain as well as pleasure.

is there truely a nirvana ?

i cant imagine that here in this life.
 
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