"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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No way to win when it comes to debating girlfriends re: politics, abortion, etc etc

Semtex

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Note to all DJ members...dont get into heated debates, there's no way to win. If you concede just to placate her because she is so impassioned about her point, you'll lose her (and your self-) respect...If you continue to debate (and win) you will embitter her, and she will figure out a way to turn it around into you 'disrespecting her by being so condescending'.

Learned this the hard way :up:
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Why would you debate anyone about these kind of things unless it was your job? Complete waste of time. Just assume they are idiots for not thinking the same thing you are, which is obviously the correct way to think if you are a genius like me.
 

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Semtex said:
Note to all DJ members...dont get into heated debates, there's no way to win. If you concede just to placate her because she is so impassioned about her point, you'll lose her (and your self-) respect...If you continue to debate (and win) you will embitter her, and she will figure out a way to turn it around into you 'disrespecting her by being so condescending'.

Learned this the hard way :up:
Me too. I got into some political debates with a female friend. It was a total waste of time. It's not bad with men, but it gets very ugly and personal with women.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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