"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Warrior74

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This year has been insane. I haven't had time to do anything but work, spend time with my daughter and sleep. I have zero time to do anything else right now. Anyone else run into this?

I meant to get back in the game this year, but right now it's hard to find the time or energy to even try. I got a number last friday night at a birthday party and actually forgot about it until today. On the other hand, I'll have my car paid off in a few months.

The way things are going I'll be lucky to get out 1 or 2 nights a month.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Got divorced[wife moved out] then flooded. had to clean up after the contractors,buy new furniture for the basement etc. had about 7 months when I COULD legally chase,but had a messy house...so why bother? Before that, my attorney advised me NOT to date until it was final.
 

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Dear Warrior,
Yeah.... most of us go through periods like this,you are not Robinson Crusoe......The good News is,that lots of really fine quality Women go through the same,you just have to hook up,recognise your shared situation and make the most of it....effectively they become F.B's,the encounters can be amazingly quick,a few hours after Supper,a fleeting grapple at Lunch time....even though you are free White and 21,it's a bit like having an affair,and millions do!
 

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Just go with the flow for now. Like you said, your car is almost paid off and you are spending time with your daughter.

It's been a little crazy for me this year, but I will get back in the game on Valentine Day. Meanwhile, I'm getting my life back together.
 

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So I called the chic from friday. Shes in grad school and working herself. She thought I had forgotten about her. Apparently I made an impression. Set up a meet for next week.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Warrior74 said:
So I called the chic from friday. Shes in grad school and working herself. She thought I had forgotten about her. Apparently I made an impression. Set up a meet for next week.
And, you'll get your car paid off!!!!
 
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