"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Warrior74

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This year has been insane. I haven't had time to do anything but work, spend time with my daughter and sleep. I have zero time to do anything else right now. Anyone else run into this?

I meant to get back in the game this year, but right now it's hard to find the time or energy to even try. I got a number last friday night at a birthday party and actually forgot about it until today. On the other hand, I'll have my car paid off in a few months.

The way things are going I'll be lucky to get out 1 or 2 nights a month.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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sodbuster

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Got divorced[wife moved out] then flooded. had to clean up after the contractors,buy new furniture for the basement etc. had about 7 months when I COULD legally chase,but had a messy house...so why bother? Before that, my attorney advised me NOT to date until it was final.
 

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Dear Warrior,
Yeah.... most of us go through periods like this,you are not Robinson Crusoe......The good News is,that lots of really fine quality Women go through the same,you just have to hook up,recognise your shared situation and make the most of it....effectively they become F.B's,the encounters can be amazingly quick,a few hours after Supper,a fleeting grapple at Lunch time....even though you are free White and 21,it's a bit like having an affair,and millions do!
 

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Just go with the flow for now. Like you said, your car is almost paid off and you are spending time with your daughter.

It's been a little crazy for me this year, but I will get back in the game on Valentine Day. Meanwhile, I'm getting my life back together.
 

Warrior74

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So I called the chic from friday. Shes in grad school and working herself. She thought I had forgotten about her. Apparently I made an impression. Set up a meet for next week.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Warrior74 said:
So I called the chic from friday. Shes in grad school and working herself. She thought I had forgotten about her. Apparently I made an impression. Set up a meet for next week.
And, you'll get your car paid off!!!!
 
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