"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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No text after first date, what's the deal?

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Normally i'd consider it a dud and she ain't interested, but theres some factors here that make it confusing for me.

Been on this girl a year, were suppose to go on a date a year ago, she flaked, was in and out of a LTR.

She's albanian, superrr strict parents. She had a lie to her parents about where she was for our date. (Cool maybe she's not a piece of trash)

A gamer, top tier one too, (lots of orbiter attention) Reclusive, and I always initiate the conversation.

Thursday we go on a date, she gets out of her car, wayyy hotter than I thought, I'm caught off guard.
-I'm not feeling to well to boot, and i think I might have played it wrong bc, there was so much build up, I overshared during the date I think, talked my life, a lot, a lot of the crazy **** i've done. he laughed, asked things like "you don't got on a lot of dates?" "what are you looking for?"

Now me, thinking she's a good girl, I play the good guy card, Oh well, i'm looking for stability, you know the game gets old, tbh you're the first chick in awhile I actually cared about making an impression on. But at some point I did tell her I'd devour her if I got the chance in passing, it was a hit.

She said she prefers not to go into anything with expectations because she doesn't like being disappointed, got out of a LTR 6 months ago, doesn't know, I said i mean if we do the hook up thing too that's cool. (not sure if it was a ****-test)

Anyway, date ends she gives me a big hug, and goes "i feel like threes something I want to say" I said yeah, I kinda wanna kiss you right now, she goes "I keep the first date pg-13" and gets in her car.

It's been 2 days and haven't heard from her, I haven't reached out though. However, on social media she's posted some memes about love and how you dont have to prove your worth to anyone.

>Before date she added me on FB, she has no IG, and she posts no slutty pictures, she added me and goes "Im surprised you dont have mad girls chasing you tbh"
>during the date she looked at my mouth a bit, I have a slight gap in my front tooth, not sure if turned her off.
>Is she not interested or did I spook her off by doing too forward?
>She just got out of a LTR 6 momths ago.., strict ass parents, does she just wanna go crazy and get ****ed?

>told me she's mad insecure.

>I want to reach out tonight, but if i was too beta on the date, to begin with, and she just wants to ****, i gotta re-calibrate. Or I was too forward although then I gotta keep it beta again?

Was gonna be like ehy had a really good time being crammed in the middle of a crowded restaurant while old people stared at us, when we doing it again? Or should i drop a physical hint, like when's a snuggle sesh?

dunno boys, ****ed cuz shes hot and im sick of banging 6/10's gets hollow.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Trust me banging 8s and 9s with nothing to offer other than their looks gets really hollow after a while too.

Its natural to give people who are good looking other positive traits that they dont deserve or you have no way of actually knowing if they are true or not. This is likely what you are doing with her.
 

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Trust me banging 8s and 9s with nothing to offer other than their looks gets really hollow after a while too.

Its natural to give people who are good looking other positive traits that they dont deserve or you have no way of actually knowing if they are true or not. This is likely what you are doing with her.
Have to outgrow this .
 

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It's been 2 days and haven't heard from her, I haven't reached out though. However, on social media she's posted some memes
Why haven't you reached out? I hope your not following some stupid rules that you read on here. She probably thinks your not interested. Call or text her already. Dont pay attention to memes that women post on social media. Most of it is meaningless. Actions before words.
 

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Why haven't you reached out? I hope your not following some stupid rules that you read on here. She probably thinks your not interested. Call or text her already. Dont pay attention to memes that women post on social media. Most of it is meaningless. Actions before words.

I guess it threw me because I always get at least a thanks, or had a good time after a first date if they were interested. True, I'll reach out later tonight. And yes, I hear you about the 8's and 9's but she has some really nice qualities too. You know when you start to Deify a chick because she's got everything you think you want and stop being yourself, don't wanna do that.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Albanians are freaking hot. Hottest chick I dated was Albanian. Most only get with male Albanians for LTR & marriage, so don’t think you will have one with her. Send a text bro and ask her out. Simple. Also careful, don’t be the rebound guy. Use for secs.
 

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Texted last night, no response, I'm smoked I guess.

I'll give it a few days and then hail mary a "wanna ****?" I guess. Nothing else to lose lol
 

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Why haven't you reached out? I hope your not following some stupid rules that you read on here. She probably thinks your not interested. Call or text her already. Dont pay attention to memes that women post on social media. Most of it is meaningless. Actions before words.
Teaching dudes to text a girl right after a date?

Dafvck is wrong with you?

Anyone reading this, ignore the above advice.
 

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Teaching dudes to text a girl right after a date?

Dafvck is wrong with you?

Anyone reading this, ignore the above advice.
I never said to text her right after the date. I meant he should have text her the next day. Not texting at all the next day shows her hes not that interested in her. DafVck is wrong with you?
 

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It's common for a woman who has interest in a man to make it easy for them and to show that they have a sexual interest in them. If she didn't even reach out and said it was nice meeting you or thanks for the drink, then next her. She's not too interested, rude/disrespectful or too much drama. Can't hit it out of the park each time. Just remember on future dates, show that you're relaxed and focus on her (not you and your life). Talk low and slow and show you are interested in what she has to say. How did the convo go?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Normally i'd consider it a dud and she ain't interested, but theres some factors here that make it confusing for me.

Been on this girl a year, were suppose to go on a date a year ago, she flaked, was in and out of a LTR.

She's albanian, superrr strict parents. She had a lie to her parents about where she was for our date. (Cool maybe she's not a piece of trash)

A gamer, top tier one too, (lots of orbiter attention) Reclusive, and I always initiate the conversation.

Thursday we go on a date, she gets out of her car, wayyy hotter than I thought, I'm caught off guard.
-I'm not feeling to well to boot, and i think I might have played it wrong bc, there was so much build up, I overshared during the date I think, talked my life, a lot, a lot of the crazy **** i've done. he laughed, asked things like "you don't got on a lot of dates?" "what are you looking for?"

Now me, thinking she's a good girl, I play the good guy card, Oh well, i'm looking for stability, you know the game gets old, tbh you're the first chick in awhile I actually cared about making an impression on. But at some point I did tell her I'd devour her if I got the chance in passing, it was a hit.

She said she prefers not to go into anything with expectations because she doesn't like being disappointed, got out of a LTR 6 months ago, doesn't know, I said i mean if we do the hook up thing too that's cool. (not sure if it was a ****-test)

Anyway, date ends she gives me a big hug, and goes "i feel like threes something I want to say" I said yeah, I kinda wanna kiss you right now, she goes "I keep the first date pg-13" and gets in her car.

It's been 2 days and haven't heard from her, I haven't reached out though. However, on social media she's posted some memes about love and how you dont have to prove your worth to anyone.

>Before date she added me on FB, she has no IG, and she posts no slutty pictures, she added me and goes "Im surprised you dont have mad girls chasing you tbh"
>during the date she looked at my mouth a bit, I have a slight gap in my front tooth, not sure if turned her off.
>Is she not interested or did I spook her off by doing too forward?
>She just got out of a LTR 6 momths ago.., strict ass parents, does she just wanna go crazy and get ****ed?

>told me she's mad insecure.

>I want to reach out tonight, but if i was too beta on the date, to begin with, and she just wants to ****, i gotta re-calibrate. Or I was too forward although then I gotta keep it beta again?

Was gonna be like ehy had a really good time being crammed in the middle of a crowded restaurant while old people stared at us, when we doing it again? Or should i drop a physical hint, like when's a snuggle sesh?

dunno boys, ****ed cuz shes hot and im sick of banging 6/10's gets hollow.
Wall of text and dating. She was out getting skull ****ed. Banger rotten.

#nextset
 

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Texted last night, no response, I'm smoked I guess.

I'll give it a few days and then hail mary a "wanna ****?" I guess. Nothing else to lose lol
Not going it right.


Spam approach. Swipe right at life.

You want volume. There's always leakage. So be it. Youbwant abundance and picking from that. Not waiting on cratered SMV.

As we speak, her fertility is failing her. She is aging. Coupled with poor lifestyle, a lack of feedback, girl power,high kill count, and a society that cheers women off the cliff, her shorter shelf life is exacerbated by the following. Good riddance.

I lead. She follows or next.

I don't care about baby rabies. I don't care society is lying to her. The don't care she is stupidity blind by her own hypergamy.

Zero ****s given. I call, she comes or next set.

Sex isn't a negotiation. Its either on or not. Female libido is dwindling ever much as her aesthetics.


You want her during her best year's bor not at all.
 

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I never said to text her right after the date. I meant he should have text her the next day. Not texting at all the next day shows her hes not that interested in her. DafVck is wrong with you?
Initiate a text the next day when she have not text after a 1st date?

U must be either really stupid or a plain newbie where women r concerned.

U need more training.

I strongly suggest u read the DJ bible and then put to practice some of what u learned there.
 

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Initiate a text the next day when she have not text after a 1st date?

U must be either really stupid or a plain newbie where women r concerned.

U need more training.

I strongly suggest u read the DJ bible and then put to practice some of what u learned there.
This along with the following books:

The rational male
The book of pook
Mating in Captivity
How to win friends and influence people

You lead, not chase. If a woman doesn't thank you for taking her our and spending time with you, you DO NOT REACH OUT AGAIN. It's either she's high maintenance and will do nothing in the relationship (thus you will be always chasing) or she is not that interested. Save your money, time and sanity. You only learn this stuff by experience. Consider it the price of admission. Until you do this a number of times, you will make mistakes. IF she contacts you again (slim after that last text - shows low value to her), she comes to you. Neflix and chill.
 

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Initiate a text the next day when she have not text after a 1st date?

U must be either really stupid or a plain newbie where women r concerned.

U need more training.

I strongly suggest u read the DJ bible and then put to practice some of what u learned there.
If texting a girl the next day after a date works for me, then I'll keep doing it. A lot of the advice on here about when to call or text a girl is so outdated.

What's funny is you just joined this year and have tons of posts. Your most likely just a keyboard jockey who sits on SS all day giving advice he knows nothing about. I'm out there building my life, improving myself, and gaming on women. I dont have time to post on here all day. Maybe you should try it. Come back and post a field report.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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If texting a girl the next day after a date works for me, then I'll keep doing it. A lot of the advice on here about when to call or text a girl is so outdated.

What's funny is you just joined this year and have tons of posts. Your most likely just a keyboard jockey who sits on SS all day giving advice he knows nothing about. I'm out there building my life, improving myself, and gaming on women. I dont have time to post on here all day. Maybe you should try it. Come back and post a field report.
Like u, @RichardTheFrog says the same, you want pictures too?
 
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