"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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No such thing as a high quality chick: You have to make her one

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You make her a high quality female by getting her mind first. If you have a woman's mind everything else with come with it. You capture her mind by being a exceptional human being.

What is a exceptional human being? You know one, I guarantee you do.
Its that guy who goes above and beyond what the average man does.
Hes the guy who has achieved everything he ever set his mind to and makes it look so simple..
Hes just disciplined. 100 pounds of intelligence is worth the same as 20 pounds of will power/discipline. What good is a thought or a goal if you don't get up and achieve them?

Any guy who achieves things and people around him see that he achieves things will get a females mind because she wants to see what is this magic that surrounds this guy that he can get things done while other guys are talking about getting them done?

Want to get females? Get willpower/discipline. She'll be high quality for YOU
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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I agree Cola.

In general, when you treat people like family, they treat you like family.
 

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cola said:
You make her a high quality female by getting her mind first. If you have a woman's mind everything else with come with it. You capture her mind by being a exceptional human being.

What is a exceptional human being? You know one, I guarantee you do.
Its that guy who goes above and beyond what the average man does.
Hes the guy who has achieved everything he ever set his mind to and makes it look so simple..
Hes just disciplined. 100 pounds of intelligence is worth the same as 20 pounds of will power/discipline. What good is a thought or a goal if you don't get up and achieve them?

Any guy who achieves things and people around him see that he achieves things will get a females mind because she wants to see what is this magic that surrounds this guy that he can get things done while other guys are talking about getting them done?

Want to get females? Get willpower/discipline. She'll be high quality for YOU
This aspect of PUA is false. There is no objective definition of a "good" or "worthwhile" person, other than what society or the individual determines as such. IMO, it's just key to be oneself.
 

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Couldn't disagree more. Being a quality / exceptional person doesn't mean SHE is going to return the favor. That's not how it works, because its not who she is. This is similar to acting nice to a jerk - in hopes that they'll be nice back. But, they use, abuse, manipulate, etc - because that's what jerks do.

You're heading down the path of a white knight with this logic. It's basically the same concept. A low quality person is a low quality person - regardless of who they get involved with, or look up to. In fact, they try to bring people down to their level; you don't bring them up to yours.

She has to be quality already. That's the only way it works. And yes, they do exist. Just maybe not where a lot of guys are looking, or the shallow standards they have when looking for them. The hottest girl isn't likely to be quality.

Being a quality guy WILL, however, attract a quality girl to you. You're not going to make anyone quality.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Well, regardless of your well thought out theory, I still say you can't
turn a ho into a housewife. haha.
 

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st_99 said:
Well, regardless of your well thought out theory, I still say you can't
turn a ho into a housewife. haha.
That's the first thing that came to my mind, too. Ha.
 

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Plenty of captain-save-a-ho's have tried to make a trash girl a quality girl -- she just needs a little help, that's all, right? I can do this!

Um. Sure. She was just waiting for you to save her.

Never works. The old analogy is true: She's drowning, your throw her a life preserver, you get her to the boat, and she jumps back into the water. Repeat.

Now if the OP is saying that by being HQ you attract HQ. I still disagree. Not every time. Think: Gold diggers. But being HQ will mean you will ignore the trash... Now we're on to something.
 

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I've heard this theory before that all women are the same and they adjust themselves to the way you are. I don't really agree with it. It helps to be a high quality guy, but you still have to have something to work with. A ho is a ho.
 

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You dont really pull her on the boat while shes drowning its better to teach her to swim so she never drowns again.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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You dont really pull her on the boat while shes drowning its better to teach her to swim so she never drowns again.
You can't teach her to swim, while she drowning. And some chicks, are always drowning.
 

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I call BS on this.

You don't get a chick to suddenly become high quality and get her "mind" just because you stepped it up and have your sh!t together. She's either high quality or she is not, regardless of you.

And I saw your other post about women bashing op. Thing is, most women are well below average on the "quality" scale. Well below. Little fvckin entitlement princesses.

Somebody had to say it.
 

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sort of.. some women are open too adapting to you if they really feel like they love you and some women are hos not better what.. some women come from a good family and value their commitments and relationships more that some women from bad families.. so its a case by case deal and then there are good women who go bad and bad women who go good..
 

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5string said:
I call BS on this.

You don't get a chick to suddenly become high quality and get her "mind" just because you stepped it up and have your sh!t together. She's either high quality or she is not, regardless of you.
if you are filtering properly and don't defer to her in the beginning, she's going to have to at least ACT high quality in order to earn your time

then if she tries to revert to her previous low quality ways you will remove her access to your time and attention

i firmly believe that almost ANY woman will "run amok" if her man allows her to

in the beginning you demonstrate such high value that she comes to you and she is on her best behavior or she get's backburnered

if she moves on based on this, either you didn't get her IL up high enough or she's started playing games or you did something to demonstrate that her previous perception of your high value wasn't correct

no one can make someone else do ANYTHING

if she associates enough pleasure with spending time with you and associates even more pain with not being with you, she is going to do what she needs to do to be with you. period. it's up to you to be the leader and demand those "high quality" behaviors from her.

humans are not static. we are dynamic. a "high quality" person can easily engage in "low quality" behaviors and vice versa. Oversimplification will not help us in our approach to how we think of this material.
 
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