"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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No spotter?

Cil

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Alright thanks to the advice I recieved in my last thread i've decided to try out the Rippetoe program. My only concern is I go to the gym alone and for bench press and squats i'd have no spotter. Anyway to still be able to to the exercises safely? (remember I am just a beginner and with only 5 reps instead of 8 i'm assuming i'd need to up my weights and over-estimating myself has happened before but on machines where it didn't matter much if I couldn't complete a rep)

Also is it advisable to do cardio on my rest days (tuesday, thursday) or will the extra calorie burning be counter productive to my attempts at bulking up a bit?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Colossus

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Light cardio (15-30 min) is fine, but if you are trying to bulk up no sense in burning extra calories that could be going to anabolic processes.

It also depends on your current shape.

For safety do your squats and bench in the power rack with the pins set appropriately---at a height that will save your butt if you dont make a lift. If your gym doesnt have a power rack find a new gym.
 

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thanks thats the perfect solution, i'm 99% sure my gym has a power rack and I guess i'll find out tomorrow for sure.
 

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I've never actually had a spotter. Makes the progress slower but also makes you more form concious and leads to less injuries imo as your less likely to try for an egotistical Pb
 

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I didn't say it did. I said I've never used spotters.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I usually do dumbbell bench press instead of barbell since I workout alone, but if you are determined on doing barbell bench press, don't use the barbell clamps. That way, if you get in trouble you can dump the weight on the bar off to the side. Sure, it will make a loud noise and the whole gym will be staring at you, but it is better than dropping a damn barbell on your chest.
 
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