"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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No spotter?

Cil

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Alright thanks to the advice I recieved in my last thread i've decided to try out the Rippetoe program. My only concern is I go to the gym alone and for bench press and squats i'd have no spotter. Anyway to still be able to to the exercises safely? (remember I am just a beginner and with only 5 reps instead of 8 i'm assuming i'd need to up my weights and over-estimating myself has happened before but on machines where it didn't matter much if I couldn't complete a rep)

Also is it advisable to do cardio on my rest days (tuesday, thursday) or will the extra calorie burning be counter productive to my attempts at bulking up a bit?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Colossus

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Light cardio (15-30 min) is fine, but if you are trying to bulk up no sense in burning extra calories that could be going to anabolic processes.

It also depends on your current shape.

For safety do your squats and bench in the power rack with the pins set appropriately---at a height that will save your butt if you dont make a lift. If your gym doesnt have a power rack find a new gym.
 

Cil

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thanks thats the perfect solution, i'm 99% sure my gym has a power rack and I guess i'll find out tomorrow for sure.
 

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I've never actually had a spotter. Makes the progress slower but also makes you more form concious and leads to less injuries imo as your less likely to try for an egotistical Pb
 

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I didn't say it did. I said I've never used spotters.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Pie in the Sky

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I usually do dumbbell bench press instead of barbell since I workout alone, but if you are determined on doing barbell bench press, don't use the barbell clamps. That way, if you get in trouble you can dump the weight on the bar off to the side. Sure, it will make a loud noise and the whole gym will be staring at you, but it is better than dropping a damn barbell on your chest.
 
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