JohnChops
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also "You must spread some Reputation around before giving it to Who Dares Win again."
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
As much as I try to think about it, I cant find any sourche of internal confidence.JohnChops said:@leper and @whodares now that you put it that way, that makes sense. I was just speculating. Shouldn't we strive for internal confidence though? And you're saying that comes from external items?
I saw this here so I was reading a bit of Corey Wayne's book. This is a perfect example of why I get extremely frustrated reading pickup material, it is so full of such utter bullsh!t. Wayne says:MillionBillionaire said:Inner games stuff I'm into now...
No More Mr. Nice Guy
How to be a 3% Man by Corey Wayne
There is actually such a thing though. If you look at most guys who are naturally good with women they are delusional and they think they are cooler than they actually are. It is straight up unapologetic delusion and it works. There is no actual logic behind their confidence so if you tried to break it down you would fail and end up being confused.Who Dares Win said:As much as I try to think about it, I cant find any sourche of internal confidence.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.