"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Its been a month now since the breakup and my sex drive is gone. i have absolutely no motivate to date again or even hit the bar and club scene. I tried getting on tinder and it never really goes anywhere because I don't see the point. Have some women more attractive than her into me as well so it just doesn't make any sense I should be happy Im single.

Is there anything you guys recommend to help me get my libido back?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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captain55 said:
Its been a month now since the breakup and my sex drive is gone. i have absolutely no motivate to date again or even hit the bar and club scene. I tried getting on tinder and it never really goes anywhere because I don't see the point. Have some women more attractive than her into me as well so it just doesn't make any sense I should be happy Im single.

Is there anything you guys recommend to help me get my libido back?
Take it from me, I know exactly what you are currently going through. This is normal and a pivotal time in shaping your future. While your desire for Women right now is low because your just heartbroken, Hit the gym or workout and get yourself in good shape. Start doing things productive with yourself that you will benefit from in the future because this is just a phase. You wont feel like this in a year's time and look back. I remember when i was going through it.. I even went over to a female friends house and she gave me a BJ, all i did was shrug at it and said thanks LOL! seriously though, I had alot of girls into me, i just wasnt feeling it at the time. I worked out hard, got the fitness model look and focused on my business. Once i started getting over it.. My money was good and i was leaned out in fantastic shape. When i was ready to date again... I was going through girls like shooting fish in a barrel.
 

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fvck more women. if you jerk off then you'll think about some dude railing your ex. New pvssy gets you into a new groove. Might take a bit to come around but it will be faster than just waiting around thinking about the past
 

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Cold showers and the gym. You only feel like a f@ggot because you probably went out like giving up all your power and dignity instead of walking away. Just your mind playing tricks on you - that b!tch ain't ****.

Block her from everything - go out with these new chicks - pop a Viagra and smash. You'll get your mojo back.

NO FAPPING EITHER.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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captain55 said:
Its been a month now since the breakup and my sex drive is gone. i have absolutely no motivate to date again or even hit the bar and club scene. I tried getting on tinder and it never really goes anywhere because I don't see the point. Have some women more attractive than her into me as well so it just doesn't make any sense I should be happy Im single.

Is there anything you guys recommend to help me get my libido back?
You just got out of a relationship. Maybe it's your body telling you to focus on other things for a while. I go through stages where I couldn't give two $hits about whether I've got a woman to jump on my c0ck or not. <------I consider this a good thing. It's a down time, I chill out, replenish my fluids, read, save some money, reflect, focus on me for a while. I don't stop going to the gym, or letting myself go, however, getting laid just gets put on the bottom of my list of things to do.

Then, after a while I'm ready to go again, and next thing you know I'm beating that pu$$y up like I never left it.

Like riding a bike.
 

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captain55 said:
Its been a month now since the breakup and my sex drive is gone. i have absolutely no motivate to date again or even hit the bar and club scene. I tried getting on tinder and it never really goes anywhere because I don't see the point. Have some women more attractive than her into me as well so it just doesn't make any sense I should be happy Im single.

Is there anything you guys recommend to help me get my libido back?

Had the same thing, even though I didnt like my GF, then a few weeks later FAWUKKKKKKKKKKKK sex drive slaps me in the face. :eek: :eek: :eek: :eek:
 

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I had the same problem a few months ago after breaking up with a girlfriend. I actually had sex a few times, and like you, it was with hotter girls, but out of about ten times with two different girls I only cu­mmed once, and with one girl (the ex's best friend, no less) I couldn't get hard at all. Eventually I realised I just wasn't over her yet, because we were still living together. Within days of moving away, she vanished from my thoughts almost completely, and everything returned to normal.

Just give it time.
 
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