hopelessguy
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Sent text at noon today for date #2. Still have no response. am i to assume low interest and next that biotch?
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
No Response to Text. Next?
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
I have said it a million times do not text to ask a girl out on a date ever. Especially date number two call. But yes next her ***** ass don't waste your time shell probably text or try to attempt to talk to you later just do not respond.
hopelessguy
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eh i've texted girls for dates lots of times (and this one i facebook asked for date #1!) and have been successful. i think it's a generational thing.
but yeah am nexting her.
but yeah am nexting her.
Call her.
You wouldn't send an email for a date, why would you text it.
It's easier to turn someone down by text than by phone.
It's easier to turn someone down by phone than in person.
I would call her, just for ****s and giggles. Worst off she says no.
ALWAYS call.
You wouldn't send an email for a date, why would you text it.
It's easier to turn someone down by text than by phone.
It's easier to turn someone down by phone than in person.
I would call her, just for ****s and giggles. Worst off she says no.
ALWAYS call.
hopelessguy
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yeah no worries, i aint contactnig again. besides, i didnt really connect with her on date #1 so i wasnt really into her. she was cute, but there was just no spark. just wantd to get laid i guess. time to spin more plates.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
kingsam
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well if you have calledyou woudl have got a more definate answer, and woudl know EXACTLY where you stood/what the deal was...much less ambiguity
hopelessguy
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look, there's no two ways of viewing it. if her interest level was high enough, she'd respond. since she didnt respond, it's not high enough. at this point, that's no different from her saying flat out no. so yeah, there isnt that much ambiguity.
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I may not be in your time zone so how long ago did you send it? I've had girls take 3-4 hours to reply to a text and it was still cool in the end. However, if she doesn't reply then I agree that it is low interest - take Danger's advice in that case.
I have also used texting to set up a meet with a girl (I know it goes against what many guys on the forum advise). It depends on the girl but it usually works for me if the girl is interested. I then finalize the plans over the phone.
However, I would say that you shouldn't ask for the date on the first text. You should send a text first to fish for interest and depending on how she responds you then ask if she wants to hang out on the second/third text then end the conversation. Don't text unless you have something to say.
I have also used texting to set up a meet with a girl (I know it goes against what many guys on the forum advise). It depends on the girl but it usually works for me if the girl is interested. I then finalize the plans over the phone.
However, I would say that you shouldn't ask for the date on the first text. You should send a text first to fish for interest and depending on how she responds you then ask if she wants to hang out on the second/third text then end the conversation. Don't text unless you have something to say.
hopelessguy
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It's been a day now. pretty sure i know the answer at this point.
thanks for the texting advice, though. ive already forgotten her, so it's cool.
“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”
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These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
Serg897
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1.) Like many of the guys on here have already said, usually its much better to call for a date than to text.
2.) Im a fan of the "two strike" rule. I agree that you probably shouldn't contact her again unless she contacts you first. However, unlike some the guys here I think it could be okay to try again if she contacts you. Just take it easy and see where it goes
Good luck
2.) Im a fan of the "two strike" rule. I agree that you probably shouldn't contact her again unless she contacts you first. However, unlike some the guys here I think it could be okay to try again if she contacts you. Just take it easy and see where it goes
Good luck
kingsam
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thers still a lot more ambiguity than calling, calling you put her on the spot, she has to answer, cant ignore you on the phone...hopelessguy said:
i wonder if she went out with a different guy she saw as more confident b'coz he bohtered to call her up! ha!
hopelessguy
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eh if she's going to ding me because some other dude bothered to call, he can have her.
really i dont care. im a great guy and i have other plates spinning (met yet anotehr girl today). its her loss.
really i dont care. im a great guy and i have other plates spinning (met yet anotehr girl today). its her loss.
I see all these guys posting about how "so and so girl" won't respond to their texts, but then they post that they're spinning plates so it doesn't matter. Is this really the case or are these guys trying to save face? If these plates are truly being spun, why would guys come on here and post about their problems with some girl who doesn't really even matter in the first place?
hopelessguy
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have no face to save. im pretty terrible with women and have only recently begun to take action about it. i didnt come here to post about my "problems," i just came to make sure i knew how to interpret her action (or non-action, rather).
and by "spinning plates" i dont mean im banging 5 other chicks, just that im actively pursuing them. if i was banging 5 other chicks, id have said so.
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Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Kailex
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She probably thought YOUR IL was low, because you were too lazy to even try to call her to set up a date.hopelessguy said:
She's just feeding off of YOUR non-action.
Next time, don't be lazy, CALL.
It's posts like this that are driving me nuts. There should be a pinned thread with an FAQ about texting, because we get theses questions EVERYDAY. STOP the texting. Pick up the phone, dial her number and CALL.
PLEASE.
And if you are going to text, if at all, make sure you do it the way starplayer said. IF YOU MUST, but still. CALL.
He said he uses text to gauge interest but all it ends up with a phone call either way.
Why are we so afraid to call women anymore to ask them out?
hopelessguy
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haha i guess it's flattering that she might have been rebuffed by my apparent low interest.
will keep in mind next time. oh well.
will keep in mind next time. oh well.
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it's actually saved as a cookie, so i dont have to login and type it in repeatedly.
Joe Stud
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do as the man said... dump the moniker!
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I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.