You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
I think your right groovy. but does this mean i let all my friends call me and address me as "jew"? should i just laugh off their insults? Also if i do fire back,how can i do it without making it seem like im doing it because i'm upset.Groovy said:I'd be glad, at least you're not in a boring group, they have fun, you can too! This may sound stupid, but cmon, they're all laughing and stuff, but you don't have to take it personally... Take the opportunity to practice! You're the one who chooses to be mad after all. Some other guy maybe wouldn't get mad, or if you had a million dollars you wouldn't be mad. So that part you can deal with. As with the insults, if you don't take it seriously, you can have fun, at least they are giving you attention, so may as well make a fun situation out of it. Try to mess around with them too, since they are doing the same with you. I personally kind of get how it's like, since I'm teased all the time for being a vegetarian. You can imagine the kind of jokes I get! But it's good since I'm starting to improve my wit and tooken the opportunity to make friends and at least it's not a boring situation. And maybe it's true that if you don't take it personally they won't make fun of you anymore, but you can choose not to be mad, and why not take the opportunity to make something cool out of all of this? I mean that's what we all aim for to have fun when we are with out friends. If your friends are total *******s that just want to bring you down it's one thing, but maybe they're just trying to have fun, maybe they're worth hanging out with, if you didn't take it personally, maybe you'd enjoy it more.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.