I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
I think your right groovy. but does this mean i let all my friends call me and address me as "jew"? should i just laugh off their insults? Also if i do fire back,how can i do it without making it seem like im doing it because i'm upset.Groovy said:I'd be glad, at least you're not in a boring group, they have fun, you can too! This may sound stupid, but cmon, they're all laughing and stuff, but you don't have to take it personally... Take the opportunity to practice! You're the one who chooses to be mad after all. Some other guy maybe wouldn't get mad, or if you had a million dollars you wouldn't be mad. So that part you can deal with. As with the insults, if you don't take it seriously, you can have fun, at least they are giving you attention, so may as well make a fun situation out of it. Try to mess around with them too, since they are doing the same with you. I personally kind of get how it's like, since I'm teased all the time for being a vegetarian. You can imagine the kind of jokes I get! But it's good since I'm starting to improve my wit and tooken the opportunity to make friends and at least it's not a boring situation. And maybe it's true that if you don't take it personally they won't make fun of you anymore, but you can choose not to be mad, and why not take the opportunity to make something cool out of all of this? I mean that's what we all aim for to have fun when we are with out friends. If your friends are total *******s that just want to bring you down it's one thing, but maybe they're just trying to have fun, maybe they're worth hanging out with, if you didn't take it personally, maybe you'd enjoy it more.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.