no physical reciprocation after second date? being used for money vs moving slow?

[Bokanovsky]

hey all i am new to this forum, and dating in general. 21 yo male. met a girl off a dating app, went to dinner, intentionally did no kino or physical escalation. second date i did the basics, and at the end of the date, after a hug, i kept my hands on her waist and tried to stare in her eyes, see if she was open to kissing but she just pulled back. i spent way too much on her than i should have, im still learning. my question is, do some women really just prefer to move that slow, or is she just using me for my money? how can i differentiate between the two? she said she had a good time, and texted asking if i got home safe, but i assume she was just being polite. one day later and no contact. is this obvious disinterest?

Invite her to do something that is relatively time consuming but does not involve spending a lot of money, such as a walk by the water or a mini-road trip to some nearby natural reserve. If she says no or proposes dinner instead, you've got your answer.

 

[Bokanovsky]

i don’t want to be seen as chasing. i initiated first two dates, it’s on her now right? i feel asking for another is just beta, no?

Cultural context is extremely important here. What's your background? What's hers? Where do you live?

 

[MatureDJ]

hey all i am new to this forum, and dating in general. 21 yo male. met a girl off a dating app, went to dinner, intentionally did no kino or physical escalation. second date i did the basics, and at the end of the date, after a hug, i kept my hands on her waist and tried to stare in her eyes, see if she was open to kissing but she just pulled back. i spent way too much on her than i should have, im still learning. my question is, do some women really just prefer to move that slow, or is she just using me for my money? how can i differentiate between the two? she said she had a good time, and texted asking if i got home safe, but i assume she was just being polite. one day later and no contact. is this obvious disinterest?

She likes fine dining, and evidently you like paying for it.