I've asked this girl to out twice so far. First time we grabbed lunch, movie, then went to the park. During that day, she asked if i wanna get more people or if i should make it a "me and her" time, of course i picked the latter. We had some kino at the park that day and that was about it Second time she came over and we watched movies at my house, we walked my dog together and had a little kino. Though those weren't considered official dates, I wonder how she felt about it. Right now I am thinking of taking things an extra step. What should I do to make it seem like it's more of a date than just us two hanging out together?
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
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- Thread starter Oni
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
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Good question. What are people's criteria for a date? When a girl says "I'm dating this guy..." does that mean she's hanging out with him or f*cking him?
Ya that's what im trying to get at. I want the situation to be "im dating this guy" rather than just hangout u know? I also want to show her that im interested, but i also need her to show me that she is as well.RogueWarrior said:
It'd be safe to say that once you two are fvcking regularly (assuming she's not fvcking other guys during this time) and spending a good amount of time together, you're dating. It's more of an implied thing that happens naturally rather than "would you like to date?"
edit: Don't confuse this with an Fbuddy.
edit: Don't confuse this with an Fbuddy.
Well the thing is, when we spend time together, I don't know if she's seeing me as just a "friend" or something more. I guess what I'm kinda looking for from her is some type of reassurance. She never had a bf before nor had she dated other guys.Sadao said:
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
It usually takes a few "Actionless" dates before she considers you a friend, most women throw you into that category only after you've failed the "something more" test. I'd guess that right now she sees you as something more if she asked if you wanted to invite other people or spend time just the two of you. I do highly suggest not waiting long before making a move though, unless you want to be that friend of course.
edit: keep the flirting and kino high, try not to have conversations that she would be having with her friends, but rather someone she'd want inside her
edit: keep the flirting and kino high, try not to have conversations that she would be having with her friends, but rather someone she'd want inside her
Holding, holding hands, kissing, etc etc. I'd avoid basic conversations that you'd have with your grandmother, and don't quiz her. It's kind of counter productive for me to give you a "cookie cutter" conversation to have, so just try to have a fun conversation that you feel would spark interest in her or allow opportunities for you to chime in and impress her. I'm sure you'll do fine, just remember the building blocks of all of this rather than focusing on little specific insignificant things.
Oh that reminds me. What's a good way to initiate holding hands. What if i grab her hand and she doesnt like it, things would be pretty awkward after that wouldnt it? Also, when watching movies, do people wait until the girl lean on them before wrapping their arms around her or just do it sporadically, I've always have a hard time with it.
don't be so generic, this isn't the movies.
if you grab her hand and she pulls it back, say something like "GOOD I DIDNT WANT TO HOLD YOUR HAND ANYWAY!" in a joking manner. Like I said, don't over analyze.
if you grab her hand and she pulls it back, say something like "GOOD I DIDNT WANT TO HOLD YOUR HAND ANYWAY!" in a joking manner. Like I said, don't over analyze.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Haha you are right, I guess i think too much, I need to get over that. Thanks!
I was reading the forum the past few hours and somethings i found out was you always want the girl to express her feelings to you before you do, is that right? But I was thinking, what if the girl is shy and conservative, wouldn't that be impossbile then?
I was reading the forum the past few hours and somethings i found out was you always want the girl to express her feelings to you before you do, is that right? But I was thinking, what if the girl is shy and conservative, wouldn't that be impossbile then?
It's not impossible. For a DJ, nothing is impossible. If you make the right action based moves and heat up the relationship through your actions, she'll counter-act that by bringing up her feelings to you. It will happen trust me on this just be bold but use DJ smoothness.
I see, by actions it would be things like kino, flirting, etc right?Charm said:
I come to realize that whenever after i end a day with a girl, i always come up with things that i SHOULDVE done which would have made things much better for me, it occurs so much. Anything i can do to help me improve that?
alright so today, we met up again and we fished. i made her laugh a lot and when we were at my house, there was some light kino when we were playing around with my dog. thats about it. i think i should've done more, but i didn't. damn. next time i guess.
I.A.F.Y.B.
Master Don Juan
Does she like you or your dog?Oni said:
Next time kiss her then, you will know where you stand.
Better to fail than regret.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
i want to! i jsut cant seem to find the perfect timing for it.I.A.F.Y.B. said:
that's what im afraid of. i need to pull off something good next time.Max Power said:
anyone know if there's anything i should say the next time i see her?
penkitten
Master Don Juan
why don't you just kiss her?
Gangster Of Love
Master Don Juan
Like on the lips.Oni said:
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.