"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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No, no, STOP!

PatZull

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Are you still going to whine and torment yourselves, because you are shy, or because you are ugly?

Yes, you are shy! Yes, you are ugly! But that doesn't mean game over. It's just life pasing, life happening, life being born. You have to live being unattractive, others have to live without food or shelter, while others have to live with the though that their cancer can kill them any moment. That's called life and not some crap video game or scientific robotic theory. It is your choice, though, whether you are going to let time fly by you uneventful, or whether you are going to get disturbed, to realize that just as negative can hurt, that which does not kill us makes us stronger.

I'm getting sick of all those socially accepted norms, two of which try to define the beauty of the body or the coolness of the character. These are abstract ideas that are robbing us, setting us superficial limits. Everyone is trying to be validated, 30% (or even more) of our thoughts are concentrated on our being jugded by outside criterions. Why don't we just stop that? Why don't we stop looking at magazines that are trying to force through commercialized products worn by overrated actors and models, that have gone through surgeries, 2-hour make-ups, etc., before being captured in perfectness, that exists only in our minds, and not in the real life? Why don't we stop anticipating everyone to judge us, and also stop being judges ourselves? I say fvck all that crap, I say let's not be perfect, I say let's evolve!
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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DeathDealer

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Well it goes the saying. "What you think, is what you are" if you think you can't talk to that girl, then you won't. if you think you will never have a girlfriend, then you won't.

use positive reinforcement like "i think i can i think i can" mentality. sisyphus never really complained about pushing that damn rock over and over - you shouldn't either.
 

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nice post
 

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Originally posted by DeathDealer
Well it goes the saying. "What you think, is what you are" if you think you can't talk to that girl, then you won't. if you think you will never have a girlfriend, then you won't.

use positive reinforcement like "i think i can i think i can" mentality. sisyphus never really complained about pushing that damn rock over and over - you shouldn't either.
Yep it's that simple yet so many AFCs just don't get it.

Unchecked emotions...they are a stumbeling block to self improvement...
 
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