"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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high desert dj

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After months of trying to change myself i.e. trying to be more "confident" with no success i finally gave up.
I started just concentrating on my work and not thinking about women. and just being myself I have had so many women come up to me and try to flirt it is not even funny.
I am not good looking and I dont dress that well. I am only 5-7 about 150.
I am saying this because I have read on this site how you have to be this way or that way to get women and that is not true you can be yourself when you change your are more afc.
I did learn to stand my ground with women for instance this one girl who comes to my office likes to play around alot so I play around back but when I am busy I let her know that I am busy Right now ,get out.
I feel that If i tried to talk to them first on the street they would not give me the time of day because that is not me.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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i'm glad ur feeling this way, because if u dont have a life to begin with how are gurls supposed to be attracted to u in the first place? you dont have to 'be this or or that way' because if thats not urself, its fake and girls will see through that sooner or later. yep...just be urself, respect urself, and love urself. gurls will come naturally
 
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it's just a personal interpratation of the way a don juan is... no so different from the life guide on this site...
 
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Yeah when you're loose and out with the boys and just talking to them and people in general they latch onto you.

Social proof can get you places Freinds/other women usually put me over the edge.
 
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yeah thats true



but i have a bad fashion sense so im fixing it. I always had clothes to big or 2 small and did not look right so i'm fixing it
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Originally posted by Fenderules
but i have a bad fashion sense so im fixing it. I always had clothes to big or 2 small and did not look right so i'm fixing it
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There's a difference between bad fashion sense and not knowing what sizes you wear. :rolleyes: I'm definitely going to have to recommend that you bring a girl shopping with you one day, and have her tell you what fits you and what doesn't, since apparently you've made it throughout this part of your adult life having no idea of what size jeans you wear...
 
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