I've been asking myself recently, do I really need any female friends? As I've said in other posts as of late, I've been struggling with a oneitis issue involving a girl that's been a long time friend. This lead me to reading the laddertheory.com website and how male/female friendships are often doomed to fail, particularly for the male.
I then started asking myself if I even need any female friends period. Unless they are introducing me to hot friends(which they are not), or they are hanging on my arms when I got to the club as social proof(which they are not)why do I really need them?
One problem I have in the game is not being able to start off things from the getgo with a woman as a man with romantic interests. Too often, I end up in "friendly chitchat" with a girl that leads to nothing but friendly interest, but doesn't dial up any romantic chemistry. If one has a number of female friends, he may fall in the habit of talking to women like they are sexless. Most the serious playas I've ever met don't seem to have much value in having female friends around. They don't call up girls to talk about music or politics or some interesting documentary they saw. They are about gaming woman, plain and simple, and they seem to have no need for having women in their lives as anything other than romantic interests.
So now here I am evaluating what if any benefits do female friends bring me. And are they conditioning me to be to "chummy" to women when it should be all about game.
I then started asking myself if I even need any female friends period. Unless they are introducing me to hot friends(which they are not), or they are hanging on my arms when I got to the club as social proof(which they are not)why do I really need them?
One problem I have in the game is not being able to start off things from the getgo with a woman as a man with romantic interests. Too often, I end up in "friendly chitchat" with a girl that leads to nothing but friendly interest, but doesn't dial up any romantic chemistry. If one has a number of female friends, he may fall in the habit of talking to women like they are sexless. Most the serious playas I've ever met don't seem to have much value in having female friends around. They don't call up girls to talk about music or politics or some interesting documentary they saw. They are about gaming woman, plain and simple, and they seem to have no need for having women in their lives as anything other than romantic interests.
So now here I am evaluating what if any benefits do female friends bring me. And are they conditioning me to be to "chummy" to women when it should be all about game.
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