"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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no longer feel the spark

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Last night my girlfriend for 6 months told me that for the last couple of weeks or so she doesn't feel the spark anymore.

We were in a long distance relationshp and I only got to see her 3 weeks in about 3 months. I went a bit AFC for her in the last month becasue I wasn't seeing her alot.

I'm Really upset partially because I care alot for her(How AFC, I know), and also because I blown off a few girls in My university for her.

I lost my virginity to this girl and I'm only her second lover. We spent almost everyday with each other during the summer break (3 months) and that was so amazing.

I'll see her for the last time tommorow, cos I'm going to break up with her.

How long does these things hurt for ? How can I act now?
 

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Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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She doesn't feel the spark anymore for two reasons:

-the distance
-the other guy's she's meeting


It is NOT Afc to say you care about your girlfriend!!! I'd hope you care about her after being with her for 6 months!!! Jeez!!! If the distance thing is preventing you from seeing her as much as you want, why don't you try and tell her that you two should take a break from eachother for a little bit until you guys can see eachother more often.

Don't just let her walk away from you if you still care about her bro. If this was just some random broad that you've banged a few times then I'd say "fuvk it" let the byatch walk. But this girl is obviously a lot more to you than that.



PIMP
 

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Thanks Rabbit, Thanks Pimp.

She hasn't met anyone.
1.) Cos she aint that kinda girl
2.) Because when I came back this christmas she still slept with me.

She's going to Nepal for a 6 month charity work placement soon(tommorow infact).

So I dont think she would want to be involved with another guy before she goes.

I just want to break up cos obviously I'm not going to see her for 6 months, and if 3 months away from her has caused her to lose the spark then, 6 months she'll prolly forget about me altogether.
 

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Just because she slept with you when you came back doesn't mean she didn't meet anyone. It just means she might be sleeping with both of you. But that is besides the point.

You're upset because you blew off a few girls for her. How bout her? How do you know how many guys she had to blow off for you? It's a two way street buddy - maybe she's happier now that she'll be able to find a boyfriend that she can see in the flesh more often than you.

So be happy for the good times you were able to spend with her, then move on and go get those university chicks waiting for you.
 

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Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Originally posted by NewMan
Thats a HUGE underestimation on your part....

And just so you know, They are ALL that kinda girl for the right man.
exactly!!!!!!!!! :D
 

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i am currently dealing with all the demons and spirits that come with the ending of a relationship. i say dwell on it until you are sick of being sad. listen only to songs that share your pain. write about her and your feelings. the sun will eventually find its way through the darkness, and beckon you to the otherside.

never underestimate your friends. are they around?
take care of yourself. hit the gym, take a class, get involved in a hobby.

peace.
 
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Originally posted by iqqi
i am currently dealing with all the demons and spirits that come with the ending of a relationship. i say dwell on it until you are sick of being sad. listen only to songs that share your pain. write about her and your feelings. the sun will eventually find its way through the darkness, and beckon you to the otherside.

Only a girl would say something like this - don't listen to a girl's opinion.

You don't have to break up with her - she already broke up with you a long time ago - girls always find another pimp b4 they even tell you they need space.... Remember this.. ho's are never loyal you are just the next pimp in a long line pimp's to come... never get attached to a ho...and if she ain't screwing her husband then she is hoing!!!!!

She told you that you were her second pimp - that means you were her sixth -- remember this girls lie all the time.....and want to seem like they are a little ho when in reality if u knew the truth you would label her a big ho.

Say no to ho's!!!!
 
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