"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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int3l

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hey guys, my gym is going through renovations (It's a university gym, bunch of pretty boys) so i won't be able to use it for close to a month.

Has anyone got a simple non gym based program/routine they could share with me while i have no access to the gym? I'm talking mainly bodyweight based/things along those lines. (bags with books, etc) I'm going to go scout around my area for some bars i can use for chin-up's/pullups (tree branches work as well right?) anyway i still want to be able to see some gains while i can't use the gym so yeah, anything that could help would be great.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Couldn't you find a new gym to use for a while?

Otherwise, weighed pushups, pullups/chinups, squats with makeshift weights..

But obviously nothing's going to be as good as finding another gym :)

shaun
 

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wood chopping, push/pull a car along your driveway, single leg squats, rope climbing, handstand pushups, ummm buy a cheap barbell.
 

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there are almost no other gyms around me within a 50km radius. Wood chopping?! can i do this with a mallet instead? wtf is the point of 'wood chopping'? and i'll do the weighted pushups, pullups etc, makeshift squat how?
 

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Bodyweight Exercises

If you're going to do bodyweight exercises, you will benefit from doing them in the most intense and explosive way possible. I went without lifting weights for nearly 3 months once, and kept my lean mass by doing plyometric-style bodyweight exercises. Granted, my maximum strength decreased somewhat, but my speed, agility, and "explosive" strength actually increased, while maintaining my muscle mass.

So, try doing:

Clap pushups - always go all the way down, then explode up as hard as you can, clapping while in the air. Some people get to where they can do two claps, one behind the back, one in front, for reps. But if not, one clap is fine. Just be sure to always focus on quality over quantity, which means doing the FULL MOTION, all the way down with the bottom of your sternum touching the floor to get a stretch in the chest, then exploding up, aiming to go as high as possible. Your chest, shoulders, and triceps will feel the burn, and if you're anything like me, your "fast-twitch" muscles will become even faster.

Squat Jumps - squat all the way down, as if performing an "ass to the grass" squat movement, then explode up, leaping as high as you can. You should come up on the balls of your feet before leaving the ground (this will give the calves a decent workout), and you should never land hard. Rather, you should use the downward momentum of the landing to ease back into the low squat position. I put my hands behind my head just to keep my arms out of the way. You should feel the burn in your hips, glutes, hamstrings, and of course, quads. However, if you feel it only in your quads, it's likely you're not going down far enough, or exploding up hard and fast enough. If you're inflexible like I am, it may help to point your feet outw@rds somewhat.

Pull-ups - if you don't have access to a pull-up bar, then you can simply drape a towel over a sturdy door, and then use that to perform pull-ups. It will feel a bit awkward at first, but it gets the job done. As always, focus on quality; go all the way down, and all the way up. You're stomach/chest will kind of slide against the door, but it won't hurt anything. Towards the end, when you're tired, feel free to jerk a little in order to give yourself that extra kick, but only on the last few reps. Just be sure you choose a sturdy door that won't fall out of its hinges.

Those three exercises should cover the core of any at-home, bodyweight workout. The main strength decrease that I experienced was in my lower back, as a result of not doing squats/deadlifts. My bench max went down of course, but at the same time, my quickness improved, and I could perform more reps. Not a bad deal considering I went without access to a gym for so long.

In fact, these days I incorporate plyometric bodyweight exercises into my lifting routine, just for the quickness/explosiveness they develop.

Good luck with the workouts.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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^ that's some interesting information, thanks for that. Will most probably incorporate that into my non-gym workout.
 

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without some serious weights your screwd so presuming your not a lean as motherfvker you should take this oppotunity to cut up a bit and do some HIIT while doing the bodyweight excersises that have been mentioned already
 

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Kerpal you're right about Rosstraining, it's a great site for making your own workout equipment when you don't have a gym. Plus the guy behind that site is the only person I know who does triple-clap pushups without so much as flinching.


Originally Posted by dj ben2
without some serious weights your screwd so presuming your not a lean as motherfvker you should take this oppotunity to cut up a bit and do some HIIT while doing the bodyweight excersises that have been mentioned already

It's true that heavy weights will build and maintain mass better than any bodyweight exercises, but the idea that "without serious weights your screwd" is absolutely untrue. You're screwd if you decide you are, if you decide to give up because you just can't do anything without your gym. But, with all respect, that's pvssy thinking. With the correct diet and use of intense, explosive bodyweight exercises, one can maintain lean muscle mass for a pretty extended amount of time without a gym. I certainly did.

And as for HIIT, that's something he should be doing whether he has a gym or not, IMHO.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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