Hey, I've been in the dating scene for a while and have had my experience(s) with a lot of chicks at my school. However, it seems to me that as I go in for my senior year, I look back on the dates that I've been and etc. and feel as if I've wasted my time. Now I'm ready to settle down and have a steady relationship (until maybe when I decide on a college). Now here is the problem, because I've dated various girls taht I was interested in... I think I have limited amount of girls to choose from and the odd thing is <- these girls are really my type or are they willing to date... Help a brother out here, what should I do?
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
No Girls = No Fun
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
drummer
Senior Don Juan
Don't go in looking or expecting a LTR, see how you interact, and how well you do together, and make your choice based off of that, not some idea that you really need to "get serious" with the first girl you see, DON'T SETTLE.
And about kind of depleted sources for girls at your school, start looking at other school's girls as well.
And about kind of depleted sources for girls at your school, start looking at other school's girls as well.
WC2
Master Don Juan
Ha. Now that it's your senior year in high school you feel as if you need to settle down?
Bro, you're just approaching the tip of a huge iceberg of opportunity. Don't lock yourself down into anything. From senior year of HS to senior of college is by far the best years of your life. Don't waste them on a LTR or even worse, a LTR which you are envisioning.
Play the field, have fun. The next 4 years of your life are going to shape who you are as a person. Do you want to grow up being that guy who's chained to GF or do you want to grow up being that guy who has girls chained to him?
If a LTR starts to happen, then it happens. But it shouldn't be envisioned before it happens. It should just happen. Most of all, make sure you want it 100%. Theres nothing worse then a wasted relationship.
Bro, you're just approaching the tip of a huge iceberg of opportunity. Don't lock yourself down into anything. From senior year of HS to senior of college is by far the best years of your life. Don't waste them on a LTR or even worse, a LTR which you are envisioning.
Play the field, have fun. The next 4 years of your life are going to shape who you are as a person. Do you want to grow up being that guy who's chained to GF or do you want to grow up being that guy who has girls chained to him?
If a LTR starts to happen, then it happens. But it shouldn't be envisioned before it happens. It should just happen. Most of all, make sure you want it 100%. Theres nothing worse then a wasted relationship.
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Lol my problem is that theres not very many good lookin girls in my school. So going into my senior year, im not really excited at all for it because A) There isnt very many girl options and B) Im friends with a lot of people but secretly I think they all are pretty gay people that wouldnt last a second at a cooler high school. My advice to you is to not settle down and to realize your life is about to completely change a year from now. It definitely will be a change for the better. I have a friend who just got into college and hes in a relationship with a HS junior. She doesnt even give him any and hes stuck on her! So hes in college just sittin around! You dont want to be like that do you?
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.